You seriously need to go into therapy to understand how you put your daughter in this horrible situation.

If you brought this into your home, you must have known there was a chance of something like this happening, and I wonder in some messed up way if you didn't want it to happen.

Are you jealous of your teen DD's youth and beauty? Do you have something to prove?

Seriously, you have to apologize to your DD in the way the PP suggested above. Then you need to do some serious work on yourself in therapy to understand why you created this messed up situation.

Anonymous wrote:Sincerely apologize to your daughter for putting HER into that terribly confusing situation. Let her know that you love her and that you and dad will work this out. She is not to worry about it.

It's lousy for you to have done this but to be so careless that your child had to witness it? Shame on you Op.

Guy here who once had to tell his daughter bad news about her mom. I like this idea.

Sincerely apologize to your daughter for putting HER into that terribly confusing situation. Let her know that you love her and that you and dad will work this out. She is not to worry about it.

It's lousy for you to have done this but to be so careless that your child had to witness it? Shame on you Op.

DH told me I was stupid for bringing this into our own house. Told me I could've been more discrete. Also, he told me he knew for awhile but didn't confront me about it.

Anonymous wrote:In flagrante delicto? Or just saw you together? The latter would probably be easier to get over...

No. Just kissing.

Anonymous wrote:Teen DD caught me with AP. What do I do now? I came clean to DH. I don't know what he will do. How do I reassure DD we will still be a family?

Who says you will still be a family? That's not entirely your decision.

It will probably be months of therapy before any final decisions are made.

Eh, don't worry about it. You're just showing her what a 21st century educated professional woman does after she gets married. NBD. Flaunt it baby!

You suck, OP. So your child catching you is what prompted you to tell your husband?

Anonymous wrote:You can't reassure her about an intact family. Sorry but them's the breaks. You did this. You can only assure her that you will always love her. You obviously can't assure her that you will put her or the family's needs above your own desires. Having an affair is a choice, sometimes it isn't even a bad one. But it has consequences, especially with children.

+1 family therapy?

In flagrante delicto? Or just saw you together? The latter would probably be easier to get over...

You can't reassure her about an intact family. Sorry but them's the breaks. You did this. You can only assure her that you will always love her. You obviously can't assure her that you will put her or the family's needs above your own desires. Having an affair is a choice, sometimes it isn't even a bad one. But it has consequences, especially with children.

Why didn't you think of "how to be a family" before you betrayed your family?

Shame on you. Have the decency to divorce first.

Teen DD caught me with AP. What do I do now? I came clean to DH. I don't know what he will do. How do I reassure DD we will still be a family?