I would probably assume that he was just too timid for me. I don't need someone who is the life of the party but I do need someone who isn't afraid to take control from time to time. I dated a guy similar once (but he was younger) and I had to decide everything because he was always worried about "picking the wrong thing" or "hurting my feelings". He would rarely even pick where to go for dinner. And forget about the bedroom, even when I explicitly told him what I wanted him to do to me, he would do nothing if I didn't initiate first.

I would super judge him. That's probably wrong. But I would.

I wouldnt judge him and I actually know 1 like that! He owns a million dollar home, works a lot, and is ver very sexual but still a virgin.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my husband before we met.

Everything is fine in that department.

+1 my DH too. He was just a quiet shy guy (29 when we met and promptly did the deed). He is AMAZING in bed, from day 1, I like to think that he spent that time thinking about to become the best lover ever.

PS: I also thought that him being a virgin would mean we would inevitably fail because once he did it he would want to go sow his wild oats. Instead I got to marry one of the best and most loyal people I've ever met who was completely content making one woman very happy because he didn't have an out of control sex drive (but a totally normal one once he got revved up!)

Sounds like my husband before we met.

Everything is fine in that department.

If we weren't dating I would be mildly curious as to why he waited but otherwise I have no opinion. What does or does not happen in others' bedrooms is none of my business.

If I were dating him I would need to know if he has hangups about it and if he was at all struggling with his sexuality. We would need to talk a LOT.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For many it's a religious/cultural expectation to wait until marriage. If that's the case, I would consider it normal/desirable.

Yes but those cultures also push earlier marriage (in their 20s).

Not for men, who are also often expected to be more financially stable.



I know lots of men from such cultures who married in their 30s.

Anonymous wrote:For many it's a religious/cultural expectation to wait until marriage. If that's the case, I would consider it normal/desirable.

Yes but those cultures also push earlier marriage (in their 20s).

A very late bloomer and someone with anxiety issues with women.

ED

For many it's a religious/cultural expectation to wait until marriage. If that's the case, I would consider it normal/desirable.

Gay

Creeeeeepy.

Not concerned.

35 to be exact.

Other info he is a quiet/ shy guy. Nice ,cute,He skis, he snowboards, he scuba dives, he's incredible smart, , he's well traveled.