Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this is quite what you mean, but I acted and modeled as a kid through my mid 20's. It was clear when guys were dating me to feed their egos - wanting to parade me around everyone they've ever known, always encouraging me to dress up, and I really hated that. I also did not appreciate being introduced as "This is Laura, she's a MODEL!!!"
Those guys didn't like ME. They liked the idea of THEM dating a model, the idea of me.
Don't be like them. Treat her like a real person.
It's similar enough - this is great advice. It's just I guess I want to find that sweet spot between obviously acknowledging her accomplishments (and when you are at that level in any field, it is a core component of your identity/being) but at the same time want to connect with her as the person and not just the idea that she's on magazine covers and has gotten her name in the new york times. I haven't been in a situation before where I've had to think about that balance.
I'm also kind of curious as to why she's on tinder when her social circle would be huge and has many men that are within her field/interest. I know you hear of actresses in LA that are on tinder but I always thought that was more of a marketing ploy by tinder to boost user base.