This thread is for men. Stop stepping on men's voices.

My current boyfriend's ex wife cheated on him. They have two kids together. It hurts him to this day and this was 10 years ago. He's in therapy.

http://www.chumplady.com/2016/03/dear-chump-lady-6/

There are many men who get cheated on. Just because they don't run to DCUM to share their burdens doesn't mean they are not out there or that they don't merit our sympathy.

Women cheat more then men because they can. Men usually divorce because the thought of another guy banging their wife is too much to handle. An affair challenges a man's view of his masculinity.

Anonymous wrote:i predict a short thread. It just doesn't happen very often.
Women just aren't that interested or motivate for sex.

False
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/women-cheating-men-study/story?id=13885519

Despite the victim hood displayed here at DCUM, women cheat almost as much as men do

Pp if you are not happy now it will get worst. Either stay and be more miserable or bail. I would take the latter.

My dh's exwife cheated on him. No kids. He found out and ended the marriage. Problem is that he did no therapy to uncover what his role in the demise of the marriage was (there were lots of other problems and he says the cheating gave him the excuse he needed to end it). We married a few years later and 15 years and two kids later I almost walked out on him. He plays the victim really well and does everything to protect his own feelings, including emotionally abandoning me. The last few years have been awful. We went to couples counseling for a solid year and while I also went to individual counseling he refused to go. Things have changed just enough for me to stay because of young kids, but I do not feel cherished or adored, even if he says he feels both. He may feel it but it is more important to protect his feelings than to let them out and really connect. I have asked repeatedly for him to tell me what I did wrong and how I've hurt him so that I can be a better spouse but I have yet to get an answer.

Things were not like this when we married. We were madly in love. The whole thing is depressing.

My wife cheated on me and we divorced, we were married for 18 years.
It didn't really bother me as much as I thought it would for I was not happy with her to begin with. I just stuck around for the kids sake.
The things I would do differently is not use the kids as an excuse to stay married and make sure to find out if their family has some kind of mental issues.

Anonymous wrote:i predict a short thread. It just doesn't happen very often.
Women just aren't that interested or motivate for sex.

IMO, it will be a short thread, because men don't tend to whine about this as much. As far as cheating, I'm pretty sure women are on par with men. Both genders are human after all.

Anonymous wrote:My DH was cheated on. He divorced her. They did not have kids.

How do you think it affected him emotionally? Was he broken up emotionally or was he just like "she's a $&@" and moved on? Did he tell you about it before you got serious? Do you think it affected his relationship with you?

How can this not happen very often? Don't women cheat all the time?

My DH was cheated on. He divorced her. They did not have kids.

Women cheat for life love and relationship.

i predict a short thread. It just doesn't happen very often.
Women just aren't that interested or motivate for sex.

What did you do? Did you stay with her or divorce? Kids or no? How long married? What would you do differently?