Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 16:48     Subject: Re:Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
You will never be as pretty, as clean, as smart, as crafty and as wifey as I am so stop trying.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 16:44     Subject: Re:Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:We will never be friends, I don't babysit, I am not crazy. If I were, why would you ask me to babysit ?

I AM THE ONLY QUEEN IN MY HOUSE. Go be princess at your house.


I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess this is a DIL who's trying to paraphrase her MIL, and probably exaggerated slightly.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 16:43     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).


Not sure you understand what a DIL is...


I understand what a DIL is. I tried very hard as did my husband, whose son is married to her. We gave up. All they want is money from us.


Is this incest, or some Brady Bunch type step-sibling situation?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 16:40     Subject: Re:Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:We will never be friends, I don't babysit, I am not crazy. If I were, why would you ask me to babysit ?

I AM THE ONLY QUEEN IN MY HOUSE. Go be princess at your house.


Well, you sure sound kind of nutty.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:56     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).


Not sure you understand what a DIL is...


I understand what a DIL is. I tried very hard as did my husband, whose son is married to her. We gave up. All they want is money from us.


How is she a product of your husband's parenting?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:55     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).


Not sure you understand what a DIL is...


I understand what a DIL is. I tried very hard as did my husband, whose son is married to her. We gave up. All they want is money from us.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:54     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).


Not sure you understand what a DIL is...


LOL. I read this twice and was so confused.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:52     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).


Not sure you understand what a DIL is...
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:37     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
I would never say anything to my step-DIL. She is a product of her mother and my husband's ex's poor parenting and will not change or care about anyone but herself. She will not talk to us as we do not send them money (they are adults with their own child and neither work/he is in school so they are living off loans) and cut out her mom when they cut her off financially. Now my husband's ex treads lightly as she will be next. She would call often and demand things and when we would try to be decent and offer things (but it was not cash) they would not respond). I cannot imagine what debt they/he has (they are not married technically so they can get the gov't benefits for her and baby).
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:25     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Well...that escalated quickly!
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:22     Subject: Re:Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Anonymous wrote:We will never be friends, I don't babysit, I am not crazy. If I were, why would you ask me to babysit ?

I AM THE ONLY QUEEN IN MY HOUSE. Go be princess at your house.


Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:15     Subject: Re:Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
We will never be friends, I don't babysit, I am not crazy. If I were, why would you ask me to babysit ?

I AM THE ONLY QUEEN IN MY HOUSE. Go be princess at your house.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 15:06     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
I agree, PP. I will add for myself: I didn't stop loving my baby boy the day he became a husband. I still love him and I hope you will share him when you can.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 14:32     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
I have already told my new DIL, and will continue to tell her: Be yourself, say anything to me you want, let me know if I'm doing or saying something that confuses, bothers, or offends you. I warn you, I'm sometimes tactlessly candid, and I know I blurt things out sometimes, but I don't mean any malice or to hurt you, so feel free to shut me down when I need it. Let me know what you need from me. I'm ready to love you as you are. You're good for my son and that makes you golden, as well as the fact that I like and appreciate you for yourself. Don't worry that we don't do things the same ways or always understand each other's point of view.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2016 06:51     Subject: Just curious-- MILs: what do you wish your DIL knew?
Merging families can be hard. If you're a MIL, what are the things you wish you could say to your DIL or wish she did differently? What drives you crazy? There is a lot of "MIL drives me nuts" talk on this site, but what are the pain points on the other side of the relationship?