Legal or illegal, it's a dumb and helpless move. Don't do it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever threatened/ used a threatening tone and told someone to stay away from your girlfriend/boyfriend/DW/DH/significant other ? Did it work?

No! Nobody should use such silly tactics. It's illegal. It's called assault:
In the District of Columbia, it is a misdemeanor to:

assault another person, or
threaten someone in a menacing manner.
(D.C. Code § 22-404.)

Taken from http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/district-columbia-assault-laws.htm

I would think that refers to threatening someone with violence, no? Although, I would enjoy watching someone trying to tell the police that being told "stay away from my husband" counts as assault.

His mother?? My MIL ?? "He's NOT YOUR HUSBAND!"

Anonymous wrote:No. If I felt like I had to tell the other woman to stay away, I'd know that I can't trust the guy. I won't be with someone I can't trust.

This. If your SO can't figure out how to cut off their own contact, the SO is the problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. If I felt like I had to tell the other woman to stay away, I'd know that I can't trust the guy. I won't be with someone I can't trust.

+1

+2.

Also, I believe in holding the person responsible that actually has an obligation to me: my SO. My DH and I are the ones that said our vows and promised to be faithful so it's on us to uphold them. It's not the responsibility of the "other woman" to keep him faithful, it's on him.

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever threatened/ used a threatening tone and told someone to stay away from your girlfriend/boyfriend/DW/DH/significant other ? Did it work?

No! Nobody should use such silly tactics. It's illegal. It's called assault:
In the District of Columbia, it is a misdemeanor to:

assault another person, or
threaten someone in a menacing manner.
(D.C. Code § 22-404.)

Taken from http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/district-columbia-assault-laws.htm

Anonymous wrote:No. If I felt like I had to tell the other woman to stay away, I'd know that I can't trust the guy. I won't be with someone I can't trust.

+1

I had a dream once where my husband's ex-girlfriend was trying to get him back, and it ended with me punching her repeatedly in the face. In real life, no, I've never been in a situation where I would have told someone that.

We have both told each other that somebody was obviously not a "friend to our marriage" and we have asked each other to keep a distance from that person.

I have multiple men in my life over 20 years of marriage that have made it clear they would like to have an affair with me and I keep my distance. I don't work one on one with them. I don't go to lunch. I don't invite them for social events. I don't go to happy hour if they are there, or I stay on the other side of the room.

No, I have never done that. I trust him, and it's not my job to police his friendships. That's on him. He offers me the same respect. You're basically sending the message that you don't trust your partner to make their own decisions.

I'd like my partner to be with me for as long as he wants, and not a minute more. The only behavior and decisions in my control are my own.

Of course not. That's pretty much the stupidest impulse I've ever heard.

No. If I felt like I had to tell the other woman to stay away, I'd know that I can't trust the guy. I won't be with someone I can't trust.

No. And I believe that my significant other has a responsibility to control his own behavior. It's not a question of his environment. He's responsible for his conduct regardless of who is in his environment.

No, if I had an issue I'd take it up with him. Anything else looks weak.

Have you ever threatened/ used a threatening tone and told someone to stay away from your girlfriend/boyfriend/DW/DH/significant other ? Did it work?