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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You realize that people who start out on locked, assisted-living dementia units end up in nursing homes, right? They can't stay in assisted living as dementia progresses.

Many places have a continuum of care - independent living, assisted living (both unlocked and locked units), and long term care. Residents can transition from one unit to another, as their needs change.

Precisely- someone can start out in an assisted living unit, but end up in a long-term unit, possibly in the same facility, but maybe not. "Continuum of care" means "we're going to move you around," which was my point. Thank you for confirming it.

Then choose one that is in the same facility. You have to do your research.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You realize that people who start out on locked, assisted-living dementia units end up in nursing homes, right? They can't stay in assisted living as dementia progresses.

Many places have a continuum of care - independent living, assisted living (both unlocked and locked units), and long term care. Residents can transition from one unit to another, as their needs change.

Precisely- someone can start out in an assisted living unit, but end up in a long-term unit, possibly in the same facility, but maybe not. "Continuum of care" means "we're going to move you around," which was my point. Thank you for confirming it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You realize that people who start out on locked, assisted-living dementia units end up in nursing homes, right? They can't stay in assisted living as dementia progresses.

Many places have a continuum of care - independent living, assisted living (both unlocked and locked units), and long term care. Residents can transition from one unit to another, as their needs change.

+1.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You realize that people who start out on locked, assisted-living dementia units end up in nursing homes, right? They can't stay in assisted living as dementia progresses.

Many places have a continuum of care - independent living, assisted living (both unlocked and locked units), and long term care. Residents can transition from one unit to another, as their needs change.

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You realize that people who start out on locked, assisted-living dementia units end up in nursing homes, right? They can't stay in assisted living as dementia progresses.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, not in a nursing home but in an assisted living facility or you arrange for someone to come be with her in the home, whichever is more convenient and worthwhile for you. Sorry you have to go through this process. Good luck and all the best.

Not everyone can afford assisted living. My mom is in a great nursing home, part of a larger senior complex. We are so lucky and she tells us how much she appreciates being there.

You and your mother are very lucky.

Anonymous wrote:I agree, not in a nursing home but in an assisted living facility or you arrange for someone to come be with her in the home, whichever is more convenient and worthwhile for you. Sorry you have to go through this process. Good luck and all the best.

Not everyone can afford assisted living. My mom is in a great nursing home, part of a larger senior complex. We are so lucky and she tells us how much she appreciates being there.

I agree, not in a nursing home but in an assisted living facility or you arrange for someone to come be with her in the home, whichever is more convenient and worthwhile for you. Sorry you have to go through this process. Good luck and all the best.

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Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You've never cared for anyone around the clock for years on end have you? You're grandfather never left the house naked in the middle of the night did he? Your grandmother never caught the kitchen on fire, huh? You never had to get up at 2 am to deal with an agitated and combative adult who won't sleep. No one who has had to deal with these things would ever say that.

It doesn't sound like you read PP's first sentence.

And yes, I had a parent with dementia.

Anonymous wrote:Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

You've never cared for anyone around the clock for years on end have you? You're grandfather never left the house naked in the middle of the night did he? Your grandmother never caught the kitchen on fire, huh? You never had to get up at 2 am to deal with an agitated and combative adult who won't sleep. No one who has had to deal with these things would ever say that.

Start looking for an assisted living home with a dementia unit. I would not want my mother in any nursing home. You will see what I mean when you begin touring these places.

She will probably be admitted to the nursing home - either for dementia, or physical failure.

We have to do this for her safety. Dad is calling county as we speak to force her to get medical advice. I am oddly relieved because I have worried about her sanity for a long time. Dad finally agreed after an incident today that could have been dangerous. Wondering what happens with a 5150--I suspect hospital will say mom has dementia. Does she go home but medicated until we find a home or right to retirement home. I wish we had planned better but no one wanted to have the tough discussions.