Anonymous wrote:Unemployed is a non-starter for me.

Me too. Spend the time you are spending pursuing women to get a job.

Unemployed is a non-starter for me.

What are we talking about in terms of overall prospects? Education, background, future employment?

It wouldn't matter if we were to date casually. As long as you can pay for dates, it'd be fine. I'd have to weigh many things to get involved seriously. As PP said, I don't want to support a partner indefinitely.

When I agreed to marry my XH, I made 3 miscalculations:

1) I had no idea his mother was bankrolling his UMC lifestyle.
2) I believed he would/could/desired to earn enough to support a family on his own if it was ever truly necessary.
3) I was confident that building my career was as important to him as my ability to bring in income.

The truth about these three was devastating and had I known the truth before marriage, it would have stopped me from wedding him faster than an actual hypothetical number.

Wasn't there just a huge thread last week with a DW ready to walk out because DH only made $150K and she was going to have to work?

I'm newly divorced and in my mid-40's. I married a lawyer the first time and know that money doesn't buy happiness, more than ever. Now all I want is someone who makes me feel great, who is kind to my kids, and overall makes my life better (with humor, occasional cooking, and good sex).

He doesn't need to be taller than me or make more money than I do. He can make less than I do, as long as he doesn't expect me to support him (I have enough on my plate).

Anonymous wrote:OP here i appreciate all the women honest opinions.i hear some women say they could careless about how much a guy makes long as he is good to them overall and i wondered how true that statement was to majority of women.

Not the majority, I bet. I think most people (men included) would much rather have a partner who is at least in the same league financially. I bet most people would love to be rich But we deal.

OP here i appreciate all the women honest opinions.i hear some women say they could careless about how much a guy makes long as he is good to them overall and i wondered how true that statement was to majority of women.

Anonymous wrote:If the size of my tits is a deal breaker for you, then it's only fair the size of your wallet is a deal breaker for me. Easy-peasy.

OP here. Appreciate your honesty but speaking for me a womans physical isnt a deal breaker.

Yes there is a floor for me.

If the size of my tits is a deal breaker for you, then it's only fair the size of your wallet is a deal breaker for me. Easy-peasy.

Just like anything, you make up where you can. I m only 5 9 so picked a field where I make 250k a year

Anonymous wrote:To the ladies . If a man is not making a high paying salary or even employed at the moment is it a deal breaker to you even if the guy has good qualities overall?

The whole package is taken into consideration. Just like you take her whole package into consideration.

Liking me, being good and kind were the non-negotiables for me. Salary wasn't really an issue. I made my money and was willing to be the main bread winner if need be.

To the ladies . If a man is not making a high paying salary or even employed at the moment is it a deal breaker to you even if the guy has good qualities overall?