Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 09:46     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes you get tired of sex with the same person and it becomes a chore. That can be depressing and frightening because you want a stable life but you are sick that the feeling isn't the same excitement . It's a horrible sinking feeling and sex gets old with almost everybody to some extent.


Phil Robinson of duck dynasty said something that stuck with me. He has had a wild life and trouble in his marriage . His marriage now seems very healthy and sweet . He said when he fixed his marriage he had to come to grips with the fact that "my sex life as I knew it....was over."
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 09:37     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Sometimes you get tired of sex with the same person and it becomes a chore. That can be depressing and frightening because you want a stable life but you are sick that the feeling isn't the same excitement . It's a horrible sinking feeling and sex gets old with almost everybody to some extent.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 08:55     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Anonymous wrote:In the last year or so, my husband rarely initiates if ever and straight out denies my for sex when I bring up the idea. I have tried to talk to him about it multiple times (at least 20) and he makes excuses why he doesn't want to talk about the situation or somehow says it's my fault. I've asked him point blank of his is having and affair, which he denies. Our baseline used to be 3 times a week, now maybe twice a month. I'm upset, sad, lonely etc. Both of us still exercise multiple times a week and he has no other signs of depression or huge amounts of insurmountable stress. Thoughts? Advice? He literally just ignores me.


People having affairs are known to not decrease their sex at home.

Could he be on antidepressant? That will do it.
Low testosterone levels too - which could have made him depressed in the first place too(& why he might have sought out meds?)

Ask him if he's been to a doctor this year. Any new meds? Expect him to deny that too (men can be difficult to communicate with) but maybe eventually you'll crack the surface
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 08:54     Subject: Re:Huge change in sex life
Any erection issues? Perhaps he is embarrassed about his ability to perform?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 08:41     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Well, if it's a drastic and sudden change, as you describe, then something is going on. It sounds like it coincided with your move? Has he made new friends or reconnected with old ones? I would be concerned about an affair. And even more concerned that he denies there's a problem.

Is he also emotionally disconnected? Do you spend time together as a couple? Any kids?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 02:11     Subject: Huge change in sex life
It could be any number of things OP....

Loss of physical attraction to you, low testosterone level, depression, sexuality change, an affair or impotency.

I think you should further explore these options.
Latinlover04
Post 01/23/2016 00:17     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Anonymous wrote:Yes we both have new jobs, and his is far less stressful than his previous job and far less stressful than my job.


This is questionable?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 00:12     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Yes we both have new jobs, and his is far less stressful than his previous job and far less stressful than my job.
Latinlover04
Post 01/23/2016 00:10     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Anonymous wrote:In the last year or so, my husband rarely initiates if ever and straight out denies my for sex when I bring up the idea. I have tried to talk to him about it multiple times (at least 20) and he makes excuses why he doesn't want to talk about the situation or somehow says it's my fault. I've asked him point blank of his is having and affair, which he denies. Our baseline used to be 3 times a week, now maybe twice a month. I'm upset, sad, lonely etc. Both of us still exercise multiple times a week and he has no other signs of depression or huge amounts of insurmountable stress. Thoughts? Advice? He literally just ignores me.


That crazy sex is paramount and natural....I love sex just need someone on the same page
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2016 00:08     Subject: Huge change in sex life
New job for him?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2016 23:53     Subject: Huge change in sex life
Won't talk about it or blames you? That's completely unacceptable. He needs to see his doctor and/or a couples therapist with you.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2016 23:53     Subject: Huge change in sex life
37, we moved about a year ago and we both love our new city...so nothing bad. We are more active (healthier). Definitely not increased stress.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2016 23:52     Subject: Re:Huge change in sex life
Have him get is testosterone levels checked if all is good there check his phone because he is probably having an affair.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2016 23:50     Subject: Huge change in sex life
How old is he?
Any other changes in your life?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2016 23:42     Subject: Huge change in sex life
In the last year or so, my husband rarely initiates if ever and straight out denies my for sex when I bring up the idea. I have tried to talk to him about it multiple times (at least 20) and he makes excuses why he doesn't want to talk about the situation or somehow says it's my fault. I've asked him point blank of his is having and affair, which he denies. Our baseline used to be 3 times a week, now maybe twice a month. I'm upset, sad, lonely etc. Both of us still exercise multiple times a week and he has no other signs of depression or huge amounts of insurmountable stress. Thoughts? Advice? He literally just ignores me.