Anonymous wrote:I'm curious to know because she constantly changes or plays with her words about who is inheriting what.

The right thing is not to ask her anything, but to tell her that you hope she lives a long time and enjoys spending her money on herself!

If you ask you might as well write yourself out of it.

IF she talks about it and constantly changes what she says she's doing - she is stringing you along and may have nothing to leave.

Leave it alone, don't be tacky or coffin chasing.

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Anonymous wrote:Assume you get nothing.

This.

Yup.

Don't ask. That's obnoxious, rude, and none of your business. Expect and plan on receiving nothing, and be pleasantly surprised if you do.

There's no appropriate way to ask about this. But even if you found one and she told you she was leaving you something, what would stop her from changing her will next week and writing you out?

It's like asking her how soon she plans on dying. Please don't.

Even less classy than your "leeching" cousins, OP.

Really bad idea. How insulting to treat her like a bank rather than a loved one.

Why on earth would you want to ask this?

Assume nothing and if you get something, it's a nice surprise. You CANNOT ask without seeming like a rude, greedy pig.

Anonymous wrote:Assume you get nothing.

This.

Assume you get nothing.

You can't.

there's really no good way to ask. You probably should not. The worst that could happen is that she sours on you and cut you out of your inheritance. If she has left you something it doesn't matter whether you ask or not.

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I don't know what the polite or delicate way to ask my elderly relative what or if i am inheriting anything. She's 80 years old and I never asked her for a dime but my leeching cousins and other relatives have taken a lot of advantage and I don't want to seem like them by asking. I'm curious to know because she constantly changes or plays with her words about who is inheriting what.