Anonymous wrote:My mom always told me "you work when you don't want to so you can walk when you have to." So I work just in case something like this happens.

This is such a dismal way of looking at marriage. To answer your question, OP, no I wouldn't, pregnant or not.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if men with true professional peer wives are less likely to cheat because they don't feel an entitlement that I can imagine being the sole breadwinner might engender.

Have you met a man? They all feel entitled.

Uh, no they don't. Some consider their wives equal, or even look up to them. Hard to imagine for some, I'm sure.

I have a friend whose husband wanted to have children to the point that he went through a year or so of expensive and invasive fertility treatments with her, only to leave her a few weeks after their baby was born, to go "start a family" with his AP.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if men with true professional peer wives are less likely to cheat because they don't feel an entitlement that I can imagine being the sole breadwinner might engender.

As a guy I think it's more how you are raised. I personally don't think In a way that my wife would owe me because I'm the breadwinner and she's a SAHM. But my friends certainly disagree.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if men with true professional peer wives are less likely to cheat because they don't feel an entitlement that I can imagine being the sole breadwinner might engender.

Have you met a man? They all feel entitled.

I don't think you can ever "just walk away" when you have kids. I would have a "she devil" fantasy of dropping the kids off with DH and his AP. She how interested she still is in sex after waking up with a baby every two hours while he lies there like a log.

I wonder if men with true professional peer wives are less likely to cheat because they don't feel an entitlement that I can imagine being the sole breadwinner might engender.

I'm pregnant right now, and my answer is...I don't know. I'd need to know more. Was it a one-time thing or a long-term affair? Did he have feelings for the other woman? Was he cheating on me because he didn't like how I am pregnant (i.e., he wasn't attracted to me physically or thought that I was being too "emotional," etc), or did the affair begin before I was ever pregnant?

I can't say that these answers would make me come to one conclusion or another; I'd just really need to know all the facts before I made a decision. And to be honest, unless I found out he was cheating in a Tiger Woods type fashion, I doubt I'd make *any* decision until after I gave birth.

I'm sorry for your friend. This is a terrible position to be put into. I hope she has a good support system around her and that she is able to take care of herself and her child during this time.

I wouldn't stay if he cheated on me period. My pregnancy status would be irrelevant.

My mom always told me "you work when you don't want to so you can walk when you have to." So I work just in case something like this happens.

This is why I work.

No way,

No but I work so I can walk whenever I want. I only stay because I want to.

Absolutely not. Despicable.

My friend is a SAHM and pregnant with second child. Her DH is cheating on her. She is devastated. Pregnancy hormones don't help. Totally financially dependent on her DH so she can't support herself and kids if she were to leave him.