Anonymous
Post 12/30/2015 08:10     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Anonymous wrote:I'm a DW and I am the only one to initiate.


Do you do most of the "work" too?

Genuinely curious. I am guessing the initiating partner does most of the thrusting/riding/rocking/etc......
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2015 07:16     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I initiate about 4 to 1 compared to DW. But mostly we only actually have sex when she initiates. So, I'm not sure why I bother trying.


What happens the rest of the time?


She turns me down -- too tired, doesn't feel good, not feeling into it, "no thanks."
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 22:05     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
I'm more comfortable with DH initiating. But before he even proposed to me, he gave me a talk about how he needed to feel like I was really into him and the way he'd know that was if I sometimes initiated.

So I probably initiate once or twice a week. Closer to once than twice. In 11 years of being together, he's turned me down once.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 22:03     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Anonymous wrote:I initiate about 4 to 1 compared to DW. But mostly we only actually have sex when she initiates. So, I'm not sure why I bother trying.


What happens the rest of the time?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:55     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
I initiate about 4 to 1 compared to DW. But mostly we only actually have sex when she initiates. So, I'm not sure why I bother trying.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:51     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Both but mostly DH does (70%) while I initiate (30%). Also, it has to do with how often we can sneak around the kids, who are still young. Whoever notices that they're asleep first, initiates.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:49     Subject: Re:DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Anonymous



I do a lot b/c DH told me I had to after I had an affair. So, now it is about 90% me initiating.

With your husband?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:32     Subject: Re:DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
I do a lot b/c DH told me I had to after I had an affair. So, now it is about 90% me initiating.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:12     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
^^ Should add that DH doesn't care who initiates. As long as the results are the same.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 21:12     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
It's about 80% (DH)/20%.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 20:52     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Never...that's the males roles.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 20:52     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
We both do. Lately I do more because I'm pregnant so he's hesitant since he doesn't want to push or make me feel ubcomfortable.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 20:50     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
I'm a DW and I am the only one to initiate.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 18:51     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
Both. I am more sexually attracted to my DH though.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 18:49     Subject: DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
The low sex drive thread made me wonder about this.