Why did he leave?

You know, I did this actually by being very level headed and calm about the situation. It meant that he had grave second thoughts as he wasn't leaving some kind of emotional wreckage. But he then left about 4 years later anyway and it was SO much worse.

Advise her to get some self-respect.

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for her. This marriage ended a long time ago.

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I feel bad for her. This marriage ended a long time ago.

I would help your friend find some self-respect, a job, and a divorce attorney.

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Anonymous wrote:Ftr this isn't about me, it's about a friend. Husband has asked for a divorce and she is trying to change his mind. She has stuck by him through several affairs, and is convinced he wants to leave her for another woman.

Why would she want him to stay?

I think she doesn't want to be divorced. She likes to talk about how long she's been married. That and she has a cushy life.

Anonymous wrote:Ftr this isn't about me, it's about a friend. Husband has asked for a divorce and she is trying to change his mind. She has stuck by him through several affairs, and is convinced he wants to leave her for another woman.

Sure. We know it's you stop begging and just divorce the guy..BTW I'm a guy and I think he's an ass hole and she or you are pathetic for trying to save the marriage.

I let her vent. Our other friends have told her to leave and she has eventually ended the friendship. He was cheating with several women now it's one. She called the woman and found out its been going on for a few years. He says he ended it, but he disappears for hours at a time. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out he's still cheating.

Anonymous wrote:Ftr this isn't about me, it's about a friend. Husband has asked for a divorce and she is trying to change his mind. She has stuck by him through several affairs, and is convinced he wants to leave her for another woman.

Why would she want him to stay?

Anonymous wrote:If he does stay, it will be short lived. Why would any woman want to stay with a man like that?

+1!!!!!!!

OMG, that sounds horrible, OP. Have you offered your opinion at all?

If he does stay, it will be short lived. Why would any woman want to stay with a man like that?

Ftr this isn't about me, it's about a friend. Husband has asked for a divorce and she is trying to change his mind. She has stuck by him through several affairs, and is convinced he wants to leave her for another woman.

If a man wants to leave me, no way in hell would I try to make him stay. Pathetic

Has anyone had a spouse ask for a divorce, and convinced them to stay?