Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 11:54     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...


It doesn't suck for them, but it's still difficult for the rest of us. I can be genuinely happy for my cousin who had the same due date as me, for example, while still being really sad that I have now had two miscarriages. I was supposed to be eight months now. I'm not. Then I was supposed to be 9 weeks. I'm not. It is hard, particularly as I see pregnant women all around me and wonder if I will ever have another child. It's nice that you don't feel this way, but many people do. You should be thankful not to have to suffer this too.


yes, I am very thankful not to be a jealous person.


You may not be jealous but you sure are judgemental and lacking in empathy. Might want to climb down off that high horse before you fall on your arse.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 11:19     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Same boat. I was planning on announcing at Christmas but misscarried in November. My best friend announced at Christmas-- exact same due date as I would have had. Many, many other announcements, too.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 09:20     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...


It doesn't suck for them, but it's still difficult for the rest of us. I can be genuinely happy for my cousin who had the same due date as me, for example, while still being really sad that I have now had two miscarriages. I was supposed to be eight months now. I'm not. Then I was supposed to be 9 weeks. I'm not. It is hard, particularly as I see pregnant women all around me and wonder if I will ever have another child. It's nice that you don't feel this way, but many people do. You should be thankful not to have to suffer this too.


yes, I am very thankful not to be a jealous person.


It's not jealousy because no one begrudges these women their children or pregnancy. It's sadness for ourselves that we don't have that as well.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 09:12     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

I have the same feelings as the OP, but I don't really consider it to be jealousy, just sadness at what might have been.

I am fortunate to not have had any miscarriages, but I have not been able to try for a baby for the last two years because of my own health problems. It is hard to see everyone around you pregnant or happy with their own children and feel like that is the only thing you want in the world. Especially when people feel the need to say stuff to you like "oh you are lucky you can do whatever you want, sleep/drink/travel etc". If they only knew.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 23:09     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...


It doesn't suck for them, but it's still difficult for the rest of us. I can be genuinely happy for my cousin who had the same due date as me, for example, while still being really sad that I have now had two miscarriages. I was supposed to be eight months now. I'm not. Then I was supposed to be 9 weeks. I'm not. It is hard, particularly as I see pregnant women all around me and wonder if I will ever have another child. It's nice that you don't feel this way, but many people do. You should be thankful not to have to suffer this too.


yes, I am very thankful not to be a jealous person.

Are you also thankful for being a nasty witch?
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 21:41     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...


It doesn't suck for them, but it's still difficult for the rest of us. I can be genuinely happy for my cousin who had the same due date as me, for example, while still being really sad that I have now had two miscarriages. I was supposed to be eight months now. I'm not. Then I was supposed to be 9 weeks. I'm not. It is hard, particularly as I see pregnant women all around me and wonder if I will ever have another child. It's nice that you don't feel this way, but many people do. You should be thankful not to have to suffer this too.


yes, I am very thankful not to be a jealous person.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 20:08     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

I'm happy for them but it just makes me more sad for my own situation.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 19:45     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...


It doesn't suck for them, but it's still difficult for the rest of us. I can be genuinely happy for my cousin who had the same due date as me, for example, while still being really sad that I have now had two miscarriages. I was supposed to be eight months now. I'm not. Then I was supposed to be 9 weeks. I'm not. It is hard, particularly as I see pregnant women all around me and wonder if I will ever have another child. It's nice that you don't feel this way, but many people do. You should be thankful not to have to suffer this too.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 17:57     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...

You clearly don't or won't understand what the OP's trying to say. Move on.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 11:07     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

I was supposed to be 5 months by now, but I ain't. My SIL has the due date the same week as I would have had. And I really can't relate to what you all are saying. It sucks that someone else will have a baby? Because nobody deserves happiness unless you are happy? Come on...
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 21:29     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

So many! I'm in the same boat and it really sucks. Just trying to stay positive, though it's very hard. Sending you the best wishes for 2016!
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 20:29     Subject: Re:So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

I had a mc and d&c in December 2013. There were at least 8 FB announcements including from my brother and SIL. It was hard.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2015 13:34     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Everything will work out. Focus on your blessings.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2015 13:32     Subject: Re:So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

Yes I've seen many announcements the last few days. As I type this I'm cramping. I'm scheduled to start Ivf in late January. So wishing I were pregnant now but after years of trying I highly doubt it. I did have some dizziness this month that made me wonder and I know we timed it right but what's the chance?
I try to remain thankful for many things in my life and have faith it will all work out in one way or another.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2015 13:16     Subject: So many holiday pregnancy announcements...

I was supposed to be 7 weeks today. Was going to tell my husband on xmas eve. When I started seeing all the Facebook and Instagram posts about cams wishes coming true I was happy for these mamas. But I'm not going to lie and say it doesn't hurt seeing them all be announced. Anyone else in this boat?