They aren't sticking to immediate family. OPs sister had invited in laws and her own family. Then changed plans at the last minute and told her own family not to come until late afternoon.


I likely would just tell her never mind and not go at all, to be honest.

Anonymous wrote:Most people open gifts at their own house with immediate family and then go see family.

Merry Christmas .. Be thankful you have family.

+1

We have a lot of folks here right now. In a small apartment. Doubled up beds, sofa bed, and sleeping bags next to the tree. It could not be helped this year, but next year, we will stick to immediate family before noon.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My mom and other sibling are both single so they're alone (albeit together) Christmas morning so that's why they were going to go there. I was going to go as soon as my infant woke up. So that's why we were going to go so soon - now they said not to show up until 3-4pm after the in laws leave. None of us have groceries or anything decent to have Christmas morning because we were planning on eating there and they didn't inform us of this change in plans until last night.

But you must have known this yesterday when you had amold time to go to grocery store!

I don't think it would have been a big deal for your single mom and sister to come to your house and hang out. Then you could just go see your sister later in the afternoon.

Eat waffles, eggs, fruit or get some dunkin donuts and bring it back to the house.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My mom and other sibling are both single so they're alone (albeit together) Christmas morning so that's why they were going to go there. I was going to go as soon as my infant woke up. So that's why we were going to go so soon - now they said not to show up until 3-4pm after the in laws leave. None of us have groceries or anything decent to have Christmas morning because we were planning on eating there and they didn't inform us of this change in plans until last night.

Go out to eat breakfast or run to 7-11 for eggs, bacon, break, butter, and juice. Really not too complicated. It is the season of joy. Stay focused on the reason for the season.

I'm all for people spending time with immediate family on Christmas morning. But I totally agree that it's crazy rude to change the plans last minute like that. Especially when there is no time to make a plan B.

This sounds like it's on your sister. If the plan was my mom and sister and family coming over, I would not allow my MIL to disinvited them. Luckily you've got enough folks to have a great time regardless. So go do that and enjoy your Christmas!

Your sister should stand her ground next year and make sure it goes down differently, even if she has to turn it into a "taking turns" thing.

Why won't your sister stand up to her MIL? If mine tried to pull that Id just hold to the fact that my family was going to be there and it would be great to have everyone all together.

Of course, my ILs are inclusive people so this wouldn't happen. Sorry you're dealing with it OP.

So eat cereal and spend it together.

Op here. My mom and other sibling are both single so they're alone (albeit together) Christmas morning so that's why they were going to go there. I was going to go as soon as my infant woke up. So that's why we were going to go so soon - now they said not to show up until 3-4pm after the in laws leave. None of us have groceries or anything decent to have Christmas morning because we were planning on eating there and they didn't inform us of this change in plans until last night.

Most people open gifts at their own house with immediate family and then go see family.

Merry Christmas .. Be thankful you have family.

I'm kind of confused what happened. But I always spend Christmas morning with just my immediate family. I don't want to spend Christmas morning with anyone else. Later on today we see the rest of the family open their presents and eat dinner with them. I can understand why she wants to spend alone time with her family.

I can't follow the relationships here. Merry Christmas!

Try got their son, my sister and their grandkids for thanksgiving. Now for Christmas instead of letting them spend it with us - or even all of us together- they demanded alone time with them Christmas morning. So now we (my own family and kids, our other sibling and our mother) have to wait until Christmas afternoon to go over there to eat and celebrate with gift exchange etc. It just seems totally selfish of them and BIL won't stand up to his mom. My sister is pissed because she made a ton of food for everyone to eat together and let all of our kids hang out and play but now we basically get to eat in laws leftovers. I'm feeling somewhat personally offended by her in laws for this and I kind of just want to stay home now. Wwyd? Is this normal in law behavior?