OP, I don't get the urgency. The trip is practically an eternity away. OK, I'm exaggerating but you get my point.

I don't see why the teacher owes you any explanation at this point. Now if you haven't heard a month before the trip contact the school and find out the plan. In the meantime, have a glass of wine and enjoy the holidays.

Just email the trip organizer or principal and asked what is the back up plan if Mrs. and Mr. XXX cannot chaperone.

Can someone explain to me what the OP is upset about in a way that a middle aged guy can understand?

It the trip was in two weeks, maybe you could be upset. Next summer, are you kidding me?

My sister went on a cheerleading trip in high school, during which the coach hooked up with some dude and got pregnant.

I opened this thread hoping for a similar story. I am disappointed.

This can't be real. Right?

Lady, you are crazy. Have you already started worrying about who your son's college roommate will be? Who he'll pick as a wife?

It is totally unprofessional and inappropriate for the teacher to be friends with parents of current students. But putting that aside, she is under ZERO obligation to tell you while in her first trimester who will cover a trip over six months away.

Power down your helicopter, OP. I grew up on Long Island, and went into the city with groups and school all the time, starting in fourth grade. Never had a problem, and that was BEFORE Rudy cleaned up midtown. If it's not this pregnant teacher who goes, it'll be some other teacher. What, you're going to invite them over for tea and crumpets to interview them about whether or not they're up to the challenge of watching your son? Pssst: if he wants hookers and blow in NY, he'll get it. No matter which teacher is with him.

Anonymous wrote:How long should I wait before asking what their alternate plan is and who are the alternate chaperones? I'm really peeved because I don't trust my children into the care of just anyone... especially not like this. I wouldn't have agreed to an unchaperoned trip or a trip where the chaperones were not pre-announced.

OP it sounds like you need to ask now, for your own peace of mind. The school might not have an answer at this stage of the game, but it doesn't hurt to throw the question out there. If other parents haven't already done so, you'll help get the conversation started. When you contact the school, will you be able to leave aside your emotions (really peeved, lack of concern, I trusted this woman, should have notified)? Bringing those pieces into the conversation could complicate it.

I'm sure you know this already but the faster you can get to know the other parents, the better. Especially the other parents of teens going on the trip. Welcome to the DC area and hope it all works out!

Anonymous wrote:What an over-reach, OP. If she isn't due until this summer, she may not feel safe yet with this pregnancy. Someone just outed her on FB and now you want to sh*t on her. That is the trifecta of inconsiderate behavior on your part.

But it's all about the OP, don't you know that?

What an over-reach, OP. If she isn't due until this summer, she may not feel safe yet with this pregnancy. Someone just outed her on FB and now you want to sh*t on her. That is the trifecta of inconsiderate behavior on your part.

So, it's Christmas break, a family member outed her pregnancy, and you're worried about a field trip that isn't even happening for another 6-9 months?

I agree with PP, you need to get over yourself.

I just want to make sure I have this straight. You're upset that she did not contact you and other parents regarding this field trip before she responded to a FB comment? She herself did not post news of the pregnancy, but should have immediately gotten in touch with you, a person who has no familial connection to her or this child, because of a field trip she is chaperoning?

I can see wanting advance notice of a new chaperone before sending your child on a 5-day trip, but how much notice are you expecting? You said the trip is next summer. Are you hoping to run a detailed background check on the potential chaperone? Hire a PI to follow him or her for a full year to ensure that they can adequately care for your high schooler for 5 days?

You're coming off as pretty crazy here, OP.

So you wanted her to tell you what, when she peed on the stick? Obviously she couldn't have known when she'd get pregnant, or if it would coincide. They'll find someone else - so either cancel or be OK with that person.

Get over yourself.

Sounds like you might be better off just getting your money back. It doesn't sound like you are going to be happy with any alternate chaperones.

We have paid for a trip for my high schooler to go to NYC with a group from school, chaperoned by a teacher and her husband, also employed by the school, next summer.

About a month ago, my son came home and said that there was a rumor going around that the teacher who organized the trip is pregnant, but that she denied it. So, I let it go. Today, on Facebook, a family member of hers "outed" her, and she responded to the post already, confirming the information.

Due date is the week of the trip.

In my opinion, she and her husband should have notified those of us with children signed up on the trip BEFORE releasing the info on social media... knowing that she and he are "friends" with most of the parents and their students.

Let me be clear... I'm not upset that she's pregnant, but that she hasn't contacted us to let us know who will be chaperoning my child on a 5 day trip several hours from home. We are still new to the area and I'm more than a little peeved... don't really know any of the other parents well enough to ask them. I trusted this woman and now... I feel at the very least that she showed a lack of concern for her students and their parents.

How long should I wait before asking what their alternate plan is and who are the alternate chaperones? I'm really peeved because I don't trust my children into the care of just anyone... especially not like this. I wouldn't have agreed to an unchaperoned trip or a trip where the chaperones were not pre-announced.