People always give examples of celebrities. People: Sandra Bullock is a HUGE star who makes MILLIONS of dollars every time she does a movie or a commercial. She is not a good representation of a normal person. She can afford any type of help she desires plus she will leave her kids with huge trust funds if she dies early.

My dad had his last kid at 55 when my stepmother was 40. He was already a very experienced parent so I think it was kind of an afterthought! I think having the first baby at 50 (especially for the mom) could be very difficult to adjust to. I also think that it would be wiser to adopt or use a surrogate than add the stress of pregnancy to the equation. And I do think that if you choose parenthood at 50 you have a responsability to do what you can to stay in good health. Although my dad has had challenges he has always taken the steps under his control to stay healthy. If there are no siblings or a close spouse/partner to help, then it is also incumbent on you to plan for long term care so you are not sticking a college student with that obligation down the line.

Now my dad is 80 enjoying many grandkids, his youngest is 25, and he may eventually get to go to her wedding! He has plenty of family support as he ages so she doesn't really have any added responsibility there. My dad has done a lot of things wrong as a parent IMO but having my sister at 55 is not one of them.

Sandra Bullock.

Not me but I know someone who had a baby at 50. Single mom, totally by accident since she Thought she was not longer fertile. Kid is 3 and thriving. It was and is hard for her but her mom came to help and she has a good stable career with no more than 40hrs a week and could afford a decent daycare. She's more energetic than a lot of 50 year olds.

Not 50 but I delivered a baby at 48 (via DE) as a single mother. I had an easy pregnancy, C-section (only because baby was too big), and easy recovery. I don't feel too old myself and I have enough energy even as a single parent with no household help (and I don't need lots of sleep). My kid is VERY active too and a night owl !

Motherhood is a beautiful, fulfilling experience for me and I am so happy that I did it, despite the all the negative press, nay-sayers, etc. Sure I do worry about getting sick and dying young but so do my younger friends. I just try to stay fit and I am on top of health check-ups, more so than before.

I have to admit, despite my joy I do worry about being alive "long enough" to raise my son through his 20s and hopefully beyond but I did create a LIFE... a beautiful happy child that otherwise would have never been born!

A bit of advice -- don't advertise your age to anyone, especially your young new mom friends... nobody's business, just go with the flow. and do what you can to look younger (dress, skin...) because it will make you feel better about your age if you start to feel old.

good luck!

(Yes, I meet plenty of first time dads in their 50s but no one gives a crap... double standard. Same for older celebrity moms like Sandra.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who on here has had a baby after 50 - by birth, assisted or not or though adoption or foster care.
Considering adding an infant to our family and wondering if others have done this and their thoughts.
If you haven't and just want to add your two cents about me being too old or selfish or something, just can it.
Thanks

Do you think differently about men? Because my DH was almost 50 when I had my 3rd.

His Dad was in his mid-50s when he had his fourth.

How deep are your double standards?

+100 to the double standards. Plenty of 50-year old fathers to newborns out there.

Anonymous wrote:Who on here has had a baby after 50 - by birth, assisted or not or though adoption or foster care.
Considering adding an infant to our family and wondering if others have done this and their thoughts.
If you haven't and just want to add your two cents about me being too old or selfish or something, just can it.
Thanks

Do you think differently about men? Because my DH was almost 50 when I had my 3rd.

His Dad was in his mid-50s when he had his fourth.

How deep are your double standards?

If you're fit and strong, then I'd do it. But an infant is a lot of work, and at age 50, you are starting to slow down. What age is your DH? Some people don't slow down, but most of us do. In your mid-sixties and early 70s dealing with a teenager is going to be horrible. Really think about that before you decide to adopt an infant at 50. I wouldn't do it, but if you think you can (and you can afford lots of help), then go for it!

I would adopt a toddler at that age. Like Sandra Bullock.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Why would you want to be going to your kids high school graduation at 68 and college graduation at 72? Ick. Ick. Ick.

So you'd rather waste your youth on poop, puke, and carpools. Ick. Ick . Ick

Works both ways.

Ugh. Why would you want to be going to your kids high school graduation at 68 and college graduation at 72? Ick. Ick. Ick.

Anonymous wrote:MY dad didn't marry until he was 42 years old. There were 8 of us born after that. I say GROSS. Told old to be a proper parent.

Are you objecting to your own birth?

MY dad didn't marry until he was 42 years old. There were 8 of us born after that. I say GROSS. Told old to be a proper parent.

Are you asking men or women?

Who on here has had a baby after 50 - by birth, assisted or not or though adoption or foster care.
Considering adding an infant to our family and wondering if others have done this and their thoughts.
If you haven't and just want to add your two cents about me being too old or selfish or something, just can it.
Thanks