Anonymous
12/04/2015 20:04
Subject: Re:My sister helped me in a strange way.
I also appreciate your post. It reminds me of when I went to visit my aunt who was dying from cancer. She told me about how the teenage girl next door would shovel the snow from her walkway and driveway. The young la never told her. My aunt just caught her doing it one day when she looked out the window and that's how she found out who was shoveling all the snow. My aunt said that she never would of had anything nice to say about that kid until then.
Anonymous
12/04/2015 15:50
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
Very sweet.
I had a friend of a friend "reframe" for me once. It changed the course of my life.
I had a friend of a friend "reframe" for me once. It changed the course of my life.
Anonymous
12/04/2015 10:04
Subject: Re:My sister helped me in a strange way.
So sweet, and sensible!
Anonymous
12/04/2015 10:03
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
We have a truly remarkable, kind teenage neighbor. One day I was talking to her mother and I decided to mention how great I think her daughter is. Her mother was very thankful for the compliment and was clearly moved that her daughter impresses people that way. She said that she knows her child as a parent does and that it is great to hear positive feedback from "out in the community."
Anonymous
12/04/2015 09:56
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
Aw. That's really nice, OP. Thanks for the post!
Anonymous
12/04/2015 09:56
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
That's really nice. I hope you've told her how grateful you are for her comment.
Anonymous
12/04/2015 09:54
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
A little reframing goes a long way.
Anonymous
12/04/2015 09:53
Subject: My sister helped me in a strange way.
Years ago I was overwhelmed with work and home life, plus I was severely depressed. Two kids under 6 and going nuts. My sister would help out now and then and my husband was useless. He basically undermined me all the time. I yelled at my kids a lot. Like all day long. I did all the hard stuff, demanding job, main bread winner, brushed their teeth, kumon, organized birthday parties, bought clothes, cooked dinner, made lunches, did projects. Husband had fun with them, trips to the park, gave candy, asked nothing of them.
Then a few years ago, my sister said to me " look at how nice and well behaved "Susan" is, she does everything she is asked to do" she was referring to my dd. You know, for some reason, that one statement stuck in my head and I started seeing my kids in a different light. I started to complement them more and see the positives more often.
It is funny how that little nudge made me warm up to my kids and appreciate them more. That feeling still endures. I now make it my business to complement the best that I see in people's kids, you never know.
Then a few years ago, my sister said to me " look at how nice and well behaved "Susan" is, she does everything she is asked to do" she was referring to my dd. You know, for some reason, that one statement stuck in my head and I started seeing my kids in a different light. I started to complement them more and see the positives more often.
It is funny how that little nudge made me warm up to my kids and appreciate them more. That feeling still endures. I now make it my business to complement the best that I see in people's kids, you never know.