Anonymous wrote:OP here - 5 and 7. I'll be honest: I'm totally fine with them not wearing mittens and hats. And I usually do not care about judgment from others. For some reason, however, I just feel like a bad parent when I drop my kids off with bare heads and no gloves and I see everyone else's kids all warmly bundled up. I'm not sure why. I'm going to leave a set in the car and just ask if they want them as they leave. They will say no, but this will replace the argument where I insist, they protest, I insist, they take the gear and probably take it off as soon as I'm gone. Assuming we can even find it. That's 5 seconds of exasperation for all of our days gone.
OP I have 6yo twins. They barely wore a jacket today and it was 39 and windy. They know when they are too hot or cold. Not my problem so long as I encourage them to step outside, test the weather and offer them choices. After that, it's all on them. You a not a bad parent. Let them self regulate!