Anonymous wrote:So, you asked her to help brainstorm who should be invited to your sister's party. She offered suggestions, which you (kind of rudely, IMO) shot down. Then you gave her crap about her "tone." Yeah, she might have been rude, but you appear to have started it.

+1. You asked for her advice, then criticized it, then called her rude. You should have just taken her suggestion under advisement, thanked her, and then made your own decision.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe, just maybe, this friend is closer to your sister than you are!

And maybe, just maybe, you shouldn't be chiding people other than your own kids about their "tone."

Yep, sorry, OP - I'm with this. I think you should try and get an apology to your sister's friend (I'm sure she would be mortified).

No, OP, you're wrong. College graduation parties often include people who the graduate is currently hanging out with, even if you wouldn't consider them close. They are 21, that's how they roll. You were rude and now the party does sound lame.

Anonymous wrote:What the hell is the matter with you OP? You are wrong here. You don't get to speak to her in that tone either. She's not a child, certainly not your child, and I'd have called you out too. You acted like a bitch to her, after asking for her help, which she gave you and you chose to get all judgy about. Man, you sound like a piece of work.

Yeah. You sounded pretty rude, OP.

Yes, you deserved "such rudeness."

No, she should not be considered uninvited.

Maybe, just maybe, this friend is closer to your sister than you are!

And maybe, just maybe, you shouldn't be chiding people other than your own kids about their "tone."

It's your sister's party and you don't want to invite her only good friend?!? This isn't about you. Also, you were extremely rude to lecture her (over text no less!) about her tone. You asked for info, she gave it to you, and for some reason you didn't like her response. You need to apologize, and you definitely need to invite her to your sister's party.

OP, how old are you? cause the answer would help me frame an appropriate response to the crazy I just read

So, you asked her to help brainstorm who should be invited to your sister's party. She offered suggestions, which you (kind of rudely, IMO) shot down. Then you gave her crap about her "tone." Yeah, she might have been rude, but you appear to have started it.

Let it pass - keep her on the invite list- don't engage with her, be the mature one - she sounds crazy! Don't give her the benefit of uninviting her so she can have all that drama.....

You were both pretty rude. I think you escalated things unnecessarily and got in a texting war with what seems to be your sister's only friend. Not cool, and I'd recommend you apologize.

You are crazy.

so the one person you could think of just got uninvited... that does sound like a pretty lame party actually

What the hell is the matter with you OP? You are wrong here. You don't get to speak to her in that tone either. She's not a child, certainly not your child, and I'd have called you out too. You acted like a bitch to her, after asking for her help, which she gave you and you chose to get all judgy about. Man, you sound like a piece of work.

Here's the story:

My little sister is graduating from college this Spring. Our aunt and her dh want throw her a surprise party at their home with their 3 beautiful little children. Our aunt reached out to me to inquire if I knew anyone who my sister would want at the party. My sister is kind of a loner and she has only really had one close friend over the years that I could think of that would be worth inviting. Looking to brainstorm if we should extend the invitation to other friends of hers to this, I reached out to this friend.

She responded by saying I should invite a girl my sister has only hung out with once outside of class and this boy that my sister has been talking with for the past few months. I didn't recall anything in recent memory that would make me think either of their limited interactions with my sister warranted them an invite to this intimate gathering and I told this friend that. She responded with, "well that sounds like it will be a lame party, lol". I am pretty miffed and respond back, "...This isn't a college party where every kid she has ever talked to is invited. This isn't even MY party." And she responds with, " her boyfriend isn't a random person she hardly talks to" and then follows it with, " this is her party and she should invite whoever she is close!"

I'm so confused as last I heard, a few days back from my sister, she and the boy are "just talking" and aren't serious. I haven't even met him! I'm annoyed and text this girl, " okay. thanks for your input. I'll get back to you with final details and by the way, watch your tone when you're talking to people."

She flips out and hits back with, " you are a crazy bitch and so selfish! Don't ever talk to me like that again!" and blocks me.

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This girl just got herself uninvited to the party. Am I right?