Both my and DH parents live far away. It's very hard. I've been here for almost 8 years and still not used to them being so far away.

Anonymous wrote:shocking ... people missing their families. I aspire to that.

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I still miss my family but my aim is getting better.

My family is also on the west coast. Even though it's been a decade since they moved, I still feel left out. The thing is, they don't seem to miss me as much as I miss them because they have each other, and I have no family here. So I miss out on holidays because no one wants to travel during the winter, and you can only travel so often because of the hassle and expense. I try to make plans and no one seems to want to. I try to remind myself I chose to stay here and not move with them, but it's kind of a chronic loss. We email and skype but I feel kind of abandoned by my own family, and my kids didn't get certain perks like my nieces have gotten by living near my parents.

shocking ... people missing their families. I aspire to that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my family too. They are also across the Atlantic, and I miss them all the time. I cry for days when they are gone. I also feel depressed when my ILs go back home. The house feels empty without your family.

Thanks. Nice knowing i am not the only one.

+1 I miss them especially during the holidays. Now that my parents are elderly, I cry every time I say goodbye because it might be the last time I see them. I thought I would visit them more over the years but it hasn't been possible due to my nuclear family's situation. My nephews hardly know me.

My mom just went back to California too. I'm sad for my son who only gets to see her for a week or two each year, and I worry he won't have a strong grandparent relationship like I had growing up.

sadly though, you do get used to it.

It's bad, because my mom is even further away Skype, lots of Skype...

We talk on the phone a lot, text constantly, and visit as often as possible.

Wish we lived closer but can't fix that.

Anonymous wrote:I love my family too. They are also across the Atlantic, and I miss them all the time. I cry for days when they are gone. I also feel depressed when my ILs go back home. The house feels empty without your family.

Thanks. Nice knowing i am not the only one.

I love my family too. They are also across the Atlantic, and I miss them all the time. I cry for days when they are gone. I also feel depressed when my ILs go back home. The house feels empty without your family.

It's great. I can love my mother when she's across the Atlantic. I'm glad she comes occasionally, I'm relieved to see her leave, and I phone her frequently

Anonymous wrote:Not exactly on point, but I'd probably try to focus on the fact you have loving, warm family who are worth missing. It's better than a fractured family. Even if far away.

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My family is so annoying...

Not exactly on point, but I'd probably try to focus on the fact you have loving, warm family who are worth missing. It's better than a fractured family. Even if far away.

You get used to it.

We dont have any close family and my mother just went back to the west coast. Sooooo sad! How do people deal with living far away from family they are close with?