You have an interesting definition of "best friend." She does not treat you like a friend should.

Who has 4 kids? Crazy.

Yes, OP, tell us more about how you got stuck watching so many kids for so long.

I agree with PPs who say to warn the other friend, but do it casually

How does a friend dump 4 kids for 4 hours without you knowing? It doesn't add up.

I am not a pushover and I would watch her kids for an hour for free everyday.

I did a similar thing for a single mom in our neighborhood and it drove the other neighbors crazy that I did it for free. Idk why they cared, why do you care if the neighbor watches somebody else's kids for free?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would warn the other friend so that she isn't caught off guard and can formulate a response before the request happens.

Completely agree with this. Warn her.

+2. If she's a pushover she'll welcome the chance to formulate a response/excuse in advance.

This is the only reason I might say something.

Op

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would warn the other friend so that she isn't caught off guard and can formulate a response before the request happens.

Completely agree with this. Warn her.

+2. If she's a pushover she'll welcome the chance to formulate a response/excuse in advance.

MYOB!

The other friend has a mouth and eyes. She knows what she can handle if after the first time she can't handle she will let the mom know.
No need to involve yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I would warn the other friend so that she isn't caught off guard and can formulate a response before the request happens.

Completely agree with this. Warn her.

Absolutely warn your friend!

I presume your friend is an adult? Then she should be capable of laughing in your best friend's face as she says "hell no!" to her when she's asked for free babysitting for FOUR boys.

I would warn the other friend so that she isn't caught off guard and can formulate a response before the request happens.

You sure you hate gossip?

This is between your friend and the neighbor. No need to worry about it.

Its not gossip if it affects your friend. Of course you should warn her.

My best friend frequently tries to dump her rowdy boys on all of her friends. She has one special needs child too, so I understand why she wants or needs a break occasionally. The last straw for me was when she dumped her four boys (including the special needs boy who needs extra care) at my house for 4 hours so she could run errands and her husband to take a day off. I told her nicely that I could only help during emergencies but otherwise they'd need to hire a sitter (I have my own kids too). She told me recently that she is going to switch her children to the local public school, and has come up with the terrible idea of asking her neighbor to watch the boys in the morning for an hour, at her house, FOR FREE for the rest of the year. Neighbor is also close friend of mine. Do I warn her of my friend's future request? Watching four boys for an hour a day in the morning FOR FREE seems like a huge imposition to me, especially considering that my friend can afford to have someone watch them. Neighbor is a pushover, but eventually will explode and possibly end the friendship. I did tell my friend I considered this to be a bit of an imposition, but she claims it will not be a hassle at all. Thoughts? I hate to gossip.