Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am a white American so I don't share your cultural background. And perhaps my marriage isn't what you are anticipating either, but to me the entire foundation of marriage is trust. I trust that my DH will be loyal and faithful to me even though I am, like all people, flawed. (And vice versa). I'm not sure how you can build a solid life with someone while being afraid they might see your flaws, that they might find out you are human.

In my mind, he would have to be a pretty terrible DH to react terribly to news that you dated 3 boys in your past.

I am guess this is more than just "dating". OP's DH likely thinks he married a virgin.

I was a virgin when I got married. But I am 100% sure he won't believe me

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am a white American so I don't share your cultural background. And perhaps my marriage isn't what you are anticipating either, but to me the entire foundation of marriage is trust. I trust that my DH will be loyal and faithful to me even though I am, like all people, flawed. (And vice versa). I'm not sure how you can build a solid life with someone while being afraid they might see your flaws, that they might find out you are human.

In my mind, he would have to be a pretty terrible DH to react terribly to news that you dated 3 boys in your past.

I am guess this is more than just "dating". OP's DH likely thinks he married a virgin.

So what?

You live in this country. In THIS country, its common to date different people before marrying.

Anonymous wrote:OP I am a white American so I don't share your cultural background. And perhaps my marriage isn't what you are anticipating either, but to me the entire foundation of marriage is trust. I trust that my DH will be loyal and faithful to me even though I am, like all people, flawed. (And vice versa). I'm not sure how you can build a solid life with someone while being afraid they might see your flaws, that they might find out you are human.

In my mind, he would have to be a pretty terrible DH to react terribly to news that you dated 3 boys in your past.

I am guess this is more than just "dating". OP's DH likely thinks he married a virgin.

Anonymous wrote:Are you planning children with this man?

We have 2 kids and we have been married for around 10 years

Are you planning children with this man?

OP I am a white American so I don't share your cultural background. And perhaps my marriage isn't what you are anticipating either, but to me the entire foundation of marriage is trust. I trust that my DH will be loyal and faithful to me even though I am, like all people, flawed. (And vice versa). I'm not sure how you can build a solid life with someone while being afraid they might see your flaws, that they might find out you are human.

In my mind, he would have to be a pretty terrible DH to react terribly to news that you dated 3 boys in your past.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest fear is that what if my DH founds out that I had 3 boyfriends before I got married to him? Please note that I come from a country where girls having BF before marriage is considered a sin
Anyone else in the same boat?

Which country?

OP here! I don't want to share this information

Anonymous wrote:How would he find out??? Especially if it is a sin in your country I am guessing it was very secretive and therefore no one knows.

This sounds crazy but one of my ex boyfriend's current GF contacted me and said that he is still in love with me after so many years. So, she wanted to talk to me and see my pic to find out how I look, talk etc?
This may sound like a troll but its not. I spent the few days after she contacted me in depression and had suicidal thots. My worry is what if my ex BF tried to contact me

Anonymous wrote:My biggest fear is that what if my DH founds out that I had 3 boyfriends before I got married to him? Please note that I come from a country where girls having BF before marriage is considered a sin
Anyone else in the same boat?

Which country?

Anonymous wrote:What if you find out how many girlfriends he had?

That's probably not culturally problematic.

What if you find out how many girlfriends he had?

Um, what?

How would he find out??? Especially if it is a sin in your country I am guessing it was very secretive and therefore no one knows.

My biggest fear is that what if my DH founds out that I had 3 boyfriends before I got married to him? Please note that I come from a country where girls having BF before marriage is considered a sin
Anyone else in the same boat?