Anonymous wrote:PSA to out of town guests: if you would like all the conveniences an amenities of a hotel, please feel free to get one.

If you would like to stay with family and enjoy the other perks that come with that, well, then learn to live with a few hiccups in the process. I didn't go to hospitality school and am also running my own life aside from doing my best to be a host, even if it is often inconvenient for me to do so.

FFS, OP isn't complaining that there were no chocolates on the pillow. She is saying there were no SHEETS ON THE BED. Come on. That is literally the least you can do as a host--clean sheets on a bed/pull-out couch/futon. If you can't provide that, don't offer to host, or don't agree to host as a favor.

I agree with you, OP. They have to do it anyway, so why not do it ahead of time? It will also signal that you are welcome.

PSA to out of town guests: if you would like all the conveniences an amenities of a hotel, please feel free to get one.

If you would like to stay with family and enjoy the other perks that come with that, well, then learn to live with a few hiccups in the process. I didn't go to hospitality school and am also running my own life aside from doing my best to be a host, even if it is often inconvenient for me to do so.

I'd bring my own sheets next time for sure. So annoying.

Anonymous wrote:I love turndown service. This is why we stay in hotels. Something about sleeping at someone's house is weird.

It's funny I used to be adamantly opposed to staying in a hotel if I was in town to visit family, it just felt wrong. As I've gotten older I love the escape a hotel provides.
It would be nice if everyone had the same standards of doing things that's not how it works. I noticed this is especially true when it comes to family.I've come to accept that staying with family means you get what you get.
I admit I'm the same way, unless you're my elderly parents , you've got to fall in line with the flow. I'll do my best, but sometimes stuff happens that can't be controlled that puts a dent in even the best laid plans.

I love turndown service. This is why we stay in hotels. Something about sleeping at someone's house is weird.

Wild thought ,maybe something happened before you arrived that delayed preparations.

Anonymous wrote:If you invite someone to stay at your house you have the beds ready (sheets freshly washed, bed made up) by the time that your guests arrive.

The one exception would be if the hosts are elderly/disabled - then you go there knowing that you will need to help out.

Exactly. If you are new parents, disabled/ill, elderly or in some other way in need of help or assistance yourself, then that's one thing. But if you are a healthy person who has either agreed to host as a favor or have offered to host because you want to, you need to be a grown-up and do the bare minimum hosting basics. Clean, made bed; clean towels; clean bathroom and guest spaces.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a hotel may be a better option for your needs.

Amen! Free lodging doesn't come with turnndown.

There is a HUGE difference between expecting the very basics--like a made bed--and expecting "luxury services" like turndown. No one expects the Ritz, but a clean, made bed is the absolute least you can provide guests.

It's not "you should stay in a hotel, OP", it's "you shouldn't offer to host/say yes to a request to host, OP's 'hosts'".

If you invite someone to stay at your house you have the beds ready (sheets freshly washed, bed made up) by the time that your guests arrive.

The one exception would be if the hosts are elderly/disabled - then you go there knowing that you will need to help out.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a hotel may be a better option for your needs.

Amen! Free lodging doesn't come with turnndown.

That is rude of your hosts. Younger sibling?

Agree. This is rude for anyone but if you don't want a tired kid melting down, make it possible for that kid to hit the sheets the second they walk in the door.

Sounds like a hotel may be a better option for your needs.

If you have guests and family coming to stay with you from out of town, and they are coming in late with, say, a baby or two...PLEASE HAVE THEIR BED READY. Perhaps it a pet peeve, but I just had a looong trip. I want to put the kids to sleep, and I want to go to sleep. I don't want to hear that the sheets are in the wash, and we just have to dry them and then make up the beds. You've known we were coming for a month.