Anonymous wrote:My hubby and I choose to wear no rings. We need no man-made tchotchkes to remind us and others our love is true and everlasting.

Good for you, different strokes for different folks, I want a ring and I'll have one, but point is that both sides need to agree on what's reasonable. Someone's income is not a reasonable way to dictate how much a man should spend in a women's ring. What is important isn't the ring, it's the day after the wedding when all the frills are done and the real work begins.

My hubby and I choose to wear no rings. We need no man-made tchotchkes to remind us and others our love is true and everlasting.

DH made about 100K when he proposed. I had a diamond from my grandmother (it was part of a 3 stone ring) that was about 1 carat. He knew I wanted that stone as my center stone and I don't think he was complaining that he didn't have to pay for a big diamond!! My band was around 4K

My bf and I have talked about this. I want a ring that is something he is comfortable paying. He doesn't have a lot in savings and we want to buy a home together, so Instead of making a big fat hairy deal, we are waiting til he has the money. My feelings won't change for him, I'd marry him without a ring, but our families expect a proper ring, wedding, church mass, etc. The whole nine yard.

I think it's fine if Op has expectations, but make sure you're clear about it and if your bf doesn't agree with them then make sure you're with him because your love him and not because of what he can give you.

The Engagement ring is important to me, but not because I want to show off, but rather because I've never had anything quite so nice and he knows this, so he wants to give me a ring I will love which is why we have shopped together, designed, and even looked for the diamond together to ensure he's getting the best bang for his buck! Some may say I'm greedy for wanting a nice ring, but unlike you OP, it's not relative to his income. It's relative to what my bf is comfortable with, that makes a huge difference.

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Anonymous wrote:$0 My husband did not have the money but offered to get me one. Instead my mom gave him my grandmothers. He would have gotten me one later on if I wanted it but I like grandma's.

+1

I have no expectations on these kinds of absurd measures of love/commitment. I have the income myself - but pricey engagement rings are something I just don't understand.

Agreed. The only thing I expect is that I'll like it.

I'm more likely to go the other extreme and not want hmi to spend a bunch, because I think the money can go to better use. I'd feel very uncomfortable with a high priced ring.

If this is really the basis of your relationship/engagement/marriage, get a prenup because I give you fewer than five years.

This is the OP from the other thread about "frugal guy"

You are relentless (pp here, hit send too soon)

Are you also going to tell this thread about your "north of high six figures" old money inheritance you aren't planning to share?

Anonymous wrote:$0 My husband did not have the money but offered to get me one. Instead my mom gave him my grandmothers. He would have gotten me one later on if I wanted it but I like grandma's.

+1

I have no expectations on these kinds of absurd measures of love/commitment. I have the income myself - but pricey engagement rings are something I just don't understand.

The average spent on an engagement ring today is $6,000. I'd assume a man would pay somewhere between $1,500 and $10,000, depending on what he can afford and what he thinks his fiancee would like. If he pay far more than this, I'll think he's trying to make up for insecurities.

Stop it Op

You are not going to get any different answers to satisfy that you are right from your other thread going on right now that you want a $10k engagement ring and a $450k house from a frugal guy making $100k

It doesn't matter what DCUM thinks anyways, it matter what he thinks.

12 percent of gross

It's more than just salary - what are his debts? Your debts? Do you own a home? If not, when do you want to buy one, and what does your budget allow?

It shouldn't be based on salary, this 2 month of income is a bunch of BS.

Love should be based on a lot of things, jewelry not being one of them.

$0 My husband did not have the money but offered to get me one. Instead my mom gave him my grandmothers. He would have gotten me one later on if I wanted it but I like grandma's.

How much do you expect a guy to pay for the engagement ring based on his salary?

What about a guy who makes 50k?

100k?
200k+?