Anonymous wrote:I get what you are asking OP, but I don't think having a car payment (or student loan payment as another PP mentioned) is really comparable to living paycheck to paycheck and needing to put home repairs on a credit card.
DH and I have student loans (not all of us are fortunate enough to start out the gate with school paid for) and we have a car payment, but drove our last cars for a decade. We have zero credit card debt and savings for home repairs/money for the occasional vacation, etc.
There is a huge gap out there between being DCUM rich and living paycheck to paycheck. I imagine the vast majority of people fall somewhere here.
OP here. To be clear, I think there is a huge difference between a car payment on a sensible car (and then driving a paid off car for a while) and leasing a luxury car every 2-3 years, which MANY MANY people in my neighborhood seem to do. It seems they really only care about what they can afford on a monthly basis rather than looking at a larger financial picture. Sometimes my friends seem baffled that DH and I don't spend they way they do - our cars and house are sensible not showy, and we save A LOT toward kids college and retirement. Its not exciting.