We've found relatively inexpensive hand-held shower heads do fine. And yes, I remove the flow restrictor. Our showers turn on with push/pull handles, so we regulate water flow that way.

I have this one
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004XA284E/ref=s9_al_bw_g60_i2

and it's amazing--especially if you remove the water flow restrictor

Grohe

Thank you both!!

I have the Delta 58045-RB In2ition® 5-Setting Two-in-One Handshower Showerhead, Venetian Bronze (also featured in the amazon links above). It is great.

Sort of a timely question because I just installed a new one an hour ago and didn't want to get out of the shower when testing it.

I installed this one:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009MLXKAA

I only chose that color because it was about half the price of the other colors. However, Amazon is having a sale on the entire line today:

http://www.amazon.com/b/ref=lp_8120554011_gbps_img_m-3_4062_4fd5127b?rh=i%3Atools%2Cn%3A8120554011&ie=UTF8&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&node=8120554011

These have a hand shower that fits into an outer ring. There is a valve that you can switch to have water come from just the hand shower, just the ring, or both. There are four settings for different water streams.

The difference between this and what we had cannot be adequately described. I got the idea for it from this review that you might want to read:

http://thesweethome.com/reviews/the-best-shower-head/

^ OP here, I'm looking for a "massage" type.

I'm assuming some type of wand would be an important feature.