Why not take it as a good "excuse" to offer an olive branch? Call her and say you don't want there to be tension at a family holiday, and at the end of the day, you are thankful for her.

I agree with taking a trip somewhere else.

I think not going will make whatever problems you are having much greater. Depending on the issues, it might be better to suck it up and go instead of creating world war 3.

If she would agree that you haven't been getting along, can't you just suggest that you have separate thanksgivings this year so as not to exacerbate the situation? Maybe she would see the wisdom in that and be relieved that you suggested it.

Stop being an arrogant know it all and you'll get along just fine.

Make plans to take a family trip. It's an easy way to get off the hook. Ask me how I know.

Anonymous wrote:just go and try to embrace the spirit of being thankful. You'll make it worse by not going. Bring wine.

I agree it will be worse not to go. I'm in the middle of my own family crap and want to skip this year too.

If you are my brother, don't worry, I didn't invite you.

just go and try to embrace the spirit of being thankful. You'll make it worse by not going. Bring wine.

And we always do thanksgiving there. I don't want to go. It's going to be awkward and just not fun. But if I don't go I feel ill really be threonine down the gauntlet.