Seems like you are comfortable with not getting dark hardwoods (I don't love them either!). I'd recommend getting some samples to bring home and look at the tones with existing furniture you want to keep/lighting, etc. it's a personal choice but I run into very few hardwood floors that I don't like. I went for hardwoods in my last kitchen and all was good until I dropped a heavy plate and gauged the floor...that experience led me to do tile in my next home. Good luck-it's exciting!