Op - every time you revisit this, talk about it, post about it, it makes you more unhappy.

What would I do? I would send her a registered certified letter via my attorney letting her know that if she ever attempts another undesired photo of me I will file a restraining order in every state in this country and sue for intentional infliction of emotional distress.

Your attitude toward her preceded the "incident"...seems like she can do no right, you are just bound and determined not to like her. Be cordial to her and let it go.

You need to learn how to communicate with your DH. Why would you have not told him if it bothered you.

Now its too late and you should drop it.

OP, I hope your grandmother is OK.

But from the venom in your post, sounds like you are set to think the worst of her and not give benefit of the doubt. Unless you told her clearly there was bad news, doesn't sound like she knew what was going on. Plus, she respected the no-photo boundary you set.

Move on.

Imagine what would happen if she actually did something mean to you one day.

Anonymous wrote:Actually she did know exactly what was going on, I told the entire family that my grandmother was in the hospital and I was waiting to hear news. I was crying in the office after my phone call and had my head down in a moment of weakness when she came in and was trying to take a pic of me?

OP for fuck's sake, the world does not revolve around you.

Actually she did know exactly what was going on, I told the entire family that my grandmother was in the hospital and I was waiting to hear news. I was crying in the office after my phone call and had my head down in a moment of weakness when she came in and was trying to take a pic of me?

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. She probably didn't realize what had happened.

This. Maybe she thought you looked really nice or something and didn't realize that you were having a difficult minute. It's not like she knew you got bad news. She handled your request really well. I don't see that this is anything to get upset about.

"My moment of crisis is not a snapchat for her and her shitty friends to laugh at"

Jesus Christ, you are just the belle of the ball.

OP, you don't like her to begin with. She went to take a picture of you. She did not know you were in a moment of crisis. She's not a bitch just because she went to snap a pick of you and coincidentally you were having a bad moment. For god's sake, you sound so high maintenance.

Nothing. She probably didn't realize what had happened.

She sounds young and immature. Well, did she know you were talking to about your Grandmother's health? If she did, I would definitely bring it up to your DH, if you think you will get support, otherwise, although annoying, I don't think it's a big enough issue to complain about, it's just not worth also getting an argument with your DH, who might feel loyal to his family and end up angering you further. Luckily it sounds like you don't have to see her that often.

You expressed your concerns and she obliged--she didn't take a photo. Drop it.

Recently DH and I were visiting his parents and his sister joined. She's 26, and a huge b and only slightly tolerable if you've had a few. They were all outside and I stepped inside to take a phone call from a family member who was updating me on grandmothers recent health scare. I received bad news and was taking a minute to collect myself before I walked back outside. Except that I look up and SIL has come in house and is standing in doorway to office taking a picture of me with my head down. I asked if she was taking a photo because it is not really a Kodak moment for me. And her response was to laugh and say "well I was going to, but not anymore." And turns and walks out. We left shortly after and i haven't even mentioned it to dh. I just get more and more mad thinking about the situation. My moment of crisis is not a snapchat for her and her sh*tty friends to laugh at. I am so angry. What would you do?