Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:46
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
lol. No. This thread is actually making feel better.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:45
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
I'm the poster who said my husband spontaneously suggests things sometimes - lol, well, if it helps you feel a bit better, by spontaneously suggest things sometimes I mean about 5 times a year he'll say "hey, wanna go eat at x nice restaurant tonight?" and 5/10 they are already booked up 
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:38
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:lol no, absolutely not.
But he is often open to my suggestions, and he suggests things spontaneously sometimes, which I like.
Sure, it would be great to have your husband do this, but if I were you I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he doesn't. I think that's just looking for unhappiness.
OP here.
My husband has never done this. Not once.
I would like it too!
Prior to getting married, did he ask you on dates or plan them? You could try telling him that what you want (for an anniversary, for a birthday, whatever) is for him to surprise you. May work, may not.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:36
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Ha ha no. His idea of date night is having sex.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:36
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Anonymous wrote:lol no, absolutely not.
But he is often open to my suggestions, and he suggests things spontaneously sometimes, which I like.
Sure, it would be great to have your husband do this, but if I were you I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he doesn't. I think that's just looking for unhappiness.
OP here.
My husband has never done this. Not once.
I would like it too!
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:35
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
He hasn't done it in a decade+, but he does pay for everything that I plan for us to do. I ALWAYS get the sitter, buy tickets, make reservations, etc.
It used to make me very angry and resentful. But then I decided that I'd rather go on date nights than fume about why it's my job. He's not a multi-tasker, not a planner, prone to indecision, can't think into the future more than a day, or even a few hours.
Also, this board has some great ideas for fun things to do: do a forum search for 'date night.'
It used to make me very angry and resentful. But then I decided that I'd rather go on date nights than fume about why it's my job. He's not a multi-tasker, not a planner, prone to indecision, can't think into the future more than a day, or even a few hours.
Also, this board has some great ideas for fun things to do: do a forum search for 'date night.'
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:35
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
I wonder how many of the "no" answers don't do it either and thus no date nights happen purely out of spite.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:34
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
OP here.
just wondering!
Lol.
In 13 years of marriage my husband has planned exactly ONE night out. That was dinner for our 10th wedding anniversary.
just wondering!
Lol.
In 13 years of marriage my husband has planned exactly ONE night out. That was dinner for our 10th wedding anniversary.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:33
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
I'm usually the one who initiates in the sense of seeing an open evening on the calendar and telling him we should do a date night, but he's usually the one who plans them.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:31
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
No.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:31
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Nope
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:30
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Yes. I'd say we are 30% him, 30% me, and 40% us doing the planning together.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:30
Subject: Re:does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
lol no, absolutely not.
But he is often open to my suggestions, and he suggests things spontaneously sometimes, which I like.
Sure, it would be great to have your husband do this, but if I were you I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he doesn't. I think that's just looking for unhappiness.
But he is often open to my suggestions, and he suggests things spontaneously sometimes, which I like.
Sure, it would be great to have your husband do this, but if I were you I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he doesn't. I think that's just looking for unhappiness.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:30
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
No.
Anonymous
10/23/2015 11:26
Subject: does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
Does your husband plan date nights?
Make reservations, buy tickets, make plans, (whatever the evening entails) etc?
Make reservations, buy tickets, make plans, (whatever the evening entails) etc?