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Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

This. And women shouldn't have to make any effort to let them know what they want either! I mean they should just KNOW what women want, amiright?

Oh stop with the pity party. It's not women's fault that you're inept at reading their body language. And if a woman is not communicating with you, it's because you have not gone to the effort to make her feel comfortable. She's worried about offending your fragile ego with some constructive criticism.

I do just fine and have plenty of ladies demanding repeat visits. Frequently.

-DCUM Single Guy in 30s with a Line of Women Outside His Bedroom Door (and an Above Average Member)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

This. And women shouldn't have to make any effort to let them know what they want either! I mean they should just KNOW what women want, amiright?

Oh, so now it's the woman's job to make men not selfish in bed?

Huh.... I'm sensing a pattern here....

No, it's your job to let your partner know what does or doesn't work for you. If you expect him to learn by osmosis you're destined for a disappointing sex life. I thought all you feminists had long ago internalized the idea that "you are responsible for your own orgasm."

If you think a woman's job is to be some manic pixie dream girl who's purpose in life is to make a man functional in bed, you've gotta another thing coming.

If the man is unhappy with the volume of sex, it's his job to take initiative and figure out how to be better at it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

This. And women shouldn't have to make any effort to let them know what they want either! I mean they should just KNOW what women want, amiright?

Oh, so now it's the woman's job to make men not selfish in bed?

Huh.... I'm sensing a pattern here....

No, it's your job to let your partner know what does or doesn't work for you. If you expect him to learn by osmosis you're destined for a disappointing sex life. I thought all you feminists had long ago internalized the idea that "you are responsible for your own orgasm."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

This. And women shouldn't have to make any effort to let them know what they want either! I mean they should just KNOW what women want, amiright?

Oh, so now it's the woman's job to make men not selfish in bed?

Huh.... I'm sensing a pattern here....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

This. And women shouldn't have to make any effort to let them know what they want either! I mean they should just KNOW what women want, amiright?

Anonymous wrote:I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

I think most men don't have any clue about sex in general. Or more specifically, how to have sex that actually really enjoyable for the woman.

I think they are common themes - not the same poster(s). And I think it would do lots of people some good if these themes were more commonly discussed in society at-large, outside the comfortable anonymity of dcum.

It would help people to set their expectations more reasonably and to make better decisions about love, sex, parenting, and marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Jeez pp, that is depressing.

If this is news to you, you've apparently not been following any of the many threads on this topic.

Jeez pp, that is depressing.

I am sure they are real and from a diverse crowd. Sex and Money are the top reasons for divorce. Money isn't as big of an issue on DCUM.

I don't think men have any clue what married sex life is like. I didn't. I strongly contemplated leaving my marriage over the disparity in sex drives. Quite honestly, these boards helped me realize that most couples in long term relationships don't have a lot of sex, most have sex a couple times a month and most have so-so sex when they do. Men, especially, can have a hard time figuring out "what happened to my wonderful sex partner" when the kids come. Realizing it happens to most couples helped me not take it so personally.

Anonymous wrote:Yes.
Also wondering if the flood of "My wife wont have sex with me, why?" posts are from the same dude.

Someone should really ask Jeff

I noted this one too - "women, why don't you have sex with us? we TRY!"

but I agree that the situations OP mentions are more likely just people's real lives.

When you hang around long enough on DCUM, you read about the same problems and inane comments over and over again - and it's not because people are stupider, it's because you've learned some things.

Yes.
Also wondering if the flood of "My wife wont have sex with me, why?" posts are from the same dude.

Someone should really ask Jeff

I think this fact pattern happens a lot.

and appear designed to elicit the same types of responses? This one appears over and over:

- I am no longer sexually attracted to my DH
- we have two small kids
- he is a good husband and father
- the thrill is gone and I am bored
- I think about hot guys in my past who treated me like crap but always kept me excited

And the responses that appear over and over include:

- women dig assholes
- women don't like nice guys
- your husband gained weight and that is why you are no longer attracted
- if he did more housework, you would be more prone to wanting sex because you would not be as tired

Seriously, this same thread pops up all the time.