5'10 180 is chunky if those pounds aren't muscle.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has gotten a bit chunky also. We've joined a gym together and also work out together at home. Also, I've had to curb my serious sweet tooth to help his weight loss. We rarely purchase anything like ice cream or cookies anymore.

OP here, yes, I think you're onto something. When we eat out indulgently, I counteract it by being extra careful the following days. Him, not so much lol.

So I think if it means enough to me I'll have to give up on some of the dinners out. It's doable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I can't believe you're being so shallow.

Oh, please. Save it. We all would like our spouses to look as good as possible. And for us to be the same. Stop pretending like you want yours to be fat. Good Lord.

--not OP.

Please. Her's probably already is.

Anonymous wrote:OP I can't believe you're being so shallow.

Oh, please. Save it. We all would like our spouses to look as good as possible. And for us to be the same. Stop pretending like you want yours to be fat. Good Lord.

--not OP.

OP I can't believe you're being so shallow.

16:28 here. Well, if you want to step your game up you tell him that you're concerned about your weight and you were hoping he could support you in helping to lose some weight by joining you in a diet. Or that the pastries in the house are really tempting to you and you want to lose weight.

You can also use the same line and say you want to start running/working out and you were hoping he support you by coming along.

Finally, pack his lunch. You can say this is a budget-based thing to cut expenses of eating out. If you are packing his lunch, don't pack junk.

You know, some other woman might just appreciate him as he is. So keep up the whole you've gotten porky thing and make him feel bad about that afternoon ice cream.

OP here. Thanks all. Ok, so I'll give some more details:

I am the meal planner and the grocery shopper. I buy all healthy food, but he does insist on eating a sugary pastry for breakfast despite the fact that I cook myself eggs (mostly egg whites) and oatmeal every morning and offer to make him some too!

I DEFINITELY tell him straight up that he has gotten porky. And so has his mother. And all of his friends. And everyone else I am not a naggy type so I don't bring it up constantly, but he knows my feelings on the matter.

Interestingly, he actually walks 2 miles to work everyday. So the porkiness is kind of surpisning.

I think it really comes down to the sugary pastry breakfast and eating crap for lunch/afternoon snack.

And to be fair, he is not obese. He's like 5'10 and I think like 180 lbs.

I think he just doesn't think it's a big deal. And there might not be much else I can do? It's not a dealbreaker by any means but I do miss the nice sharp jaw and also the nice clothes that are currently too tight..

My husband has gotten a bit chunky also. We've joined a gym together and also work out together at home. Also, I've had to curb my serious sweet tooth to help his weight loss. We rarely purchase anything like ice cream or cookies anymore.

Just be blunt about it. Most guys can handle it.

Here we go again.

KARMA

Is he eating healthily other than the ice cream? A person's physique should not make or break by a couple of ice cream cones.

1. Are you the meal planner? If so, plan healthier meals. If not the meal planner, consider becoming the meal planner.

2. Do you buy the groceries? If so, don't buy junk food. If not the grocery buyer, consider becoming the grocery buyer.

3. Exercise together. "Hey, let's go for a walk/run together."

He is so handsome! I really love his face. But his strong, masculine jaw is started to get obscured by a roll of fat

I love him and if this does not get rectified I will surely survive and keep loving him, so please no attacks.

Any practical advice about how I can get him to take eating healthy a little more seriously? I'm not asking for much, just that he lay off the afternoon ice cream cone snacks!