Thanks for the advice. I will unfollow him but remain friends for his daughter's sake.

For the PP who asked, he never married my cousin. She was one of a string of AA women he has dated. he would hardly be the first person to be racist against a people he reproduced with.

Anonymous wrote:I'm from a mixed race family. My cousin was involved with a white guy and had a child with him. She went off the rails years ago and he is raising the child. I FB friended him so that our family could stay in touch with her. Sadly, his feed reveals that despite his attraction to AA women, he is racist. It's not usually overt stuff, but enough to make most people of any race uncomfortable.

Last night, he posted (was tagged in?) a picture from last Halloween that showed him in a blackface costume!

My first reaction is to unfriend him. However, if I do so, my family will lose contact with his daughter, my cousin. She is only 8. I think given her father's racism, that having contact with her non-white family is especially important.

WWYD?

That's what "follow" and "unfollow" are for. You can stay friends with a person without having all of their BS in your feed on a daily basis.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm from a mixed race family. My cousin was involved with a white guy and had a child with him. She went off the rails years ago and he is raising the child. I FB friended him so that our family could stay in touch with her. Sadly, his feed reveals that despite his attraction to AA women, he is racist. It's not usually overt stuff, but enough to make most people of any race uncomfortable.

Last night, he posted (was tagged in?) a picture from last Halloween that showed him in a blackface costume!

My first reaction is to unfriend him. However, if I do so, my family will lose contact with his daughter, my cousin. She is only 8. I think given her father's racism, that having contact with her non-white family is especially important.

WWYD?

Maybe he identifies as AA

Post of the day!

Stay in touch for the sake of the child. We accept other deep flaws in friends and family members--we stay in touch with known adulterers, "casual" substance abusers, the list goes on. This is a deep flaw in him that could potentially evolve and heal. "Amazing Grace"...

Stay connected with the child, if you can.

Anonymous wrote:I'm from a mixed race family. My cousin was involved with a white guy and had a child with him. She went off the rails years ago and he is raising the child. I FB friended him so that our family could stay in touch with her. Sadly, his feed reveals that despite his attraction to AA women, he is racist. It's not usually overt stuff, but enough to make most people of any race uncomfortable.

Last night, he posted (was tagged in?) a picture from last Halloween that showed him in a blackface costume!

My first reaction is to unfriend him. However, if I do so, my family will lose contact with his daughter, my cousin. She is only 8. I think given her father's racism, that having contact with her non-white family is especially important.

WWYD?

Maybe he identifies as AA

OP, I agree with the pps who say "hide" the posts and stay in touch. My brother gave up his parental rights after his ex ran off with the kids to a far-off state and I determined I would always stay in touch with the kids no matter what. I avoided getting into any kind of argument with my ex-SIL and was successful in maintaining a distant, not close but continuous relationship with my nephews. My brother reconnected with one after the young man came of age and it was all worth it in my view. That's the main reason I hung on for so many years.

(Thank god for Facebook by the way which has made this much easier.)

Anonymous wrote:I'm from a mixed race family. My cousin was involved with a white guy and had a child with him. She went off the rails years ago and he is raising the child. I FB friended him so that our family could stay in touch with her. Sadly, his feed reveals that despite his attraction to AA women, he is racist. It's not usually overt stuff, but enough to make most people of any race uncomfortable.

Last night, he posted (was tagged in?) a picture from last Halloween that showed him in a blackface costume!

My first reaction is to unfriend him. However, if I do so, my family will lose contact with his daughter, my cousin. She is only 8. I think given her father's racism, that having contact with her non-white family is especially important.

WWYD?

You seem too sensitive. If wearing a "blackface costume" for Halloween is the worst you can say about him, I'm not sure why you accuse him of being racist. Especially when he apparently married an AA woman, and has a biracial daughter.

Perhaps time to examine yourself?

I am multiethnic, and most people in my mother's family are various shades of racists. I am close to the less racist ones, for example my aunts, and don't interact at all with the extreme ones.

By less racist I mean people who have grown up with deeply ingrained prejudices about other races which they cannot completely shake off. While loving me and my children, and having great respect for my father, they sometimes make comments which reveal how they think about others of my ethnicity (in both good and bad ways, but all untrue since they're generalizations).

If I held a straight line about rejecting ALL prejudices, I would have no family left. Also, I have no fear that my children will start thinking that way - they have friends from all races and countries.

Anonymous wrote:Hide his feed, stay in touch.

This. Staying in touch is more important. It's easy to just hide his posts so you don't have to see the stuff you don't like.

I am very anti-guns. I have cousins who are very pro-guns. I hide their shit from my feed. When I want to see new pics of their kids, I go to their page and look at the pictures and ignore the rest.

Wait, so a racist is raising a mixed race child? Are you interpreting his FB posts wrong?

OP, I'm reading this as a total outsider, but when I see people imitating my race (I'm not white, not black) I feel as though they are jealous. In other words, it sounds to me like he wishes he was black. Could it be that?

I would definitely stay in touch for the little one's sake though. Hide the feed.

Anonymous wrote:Hide his feed, stay in touch.

+1

Hide his feed, stay in touch.

Stay in touch, for sure, for the girl's sake.

I'm from a mixed race family. My cousin was involved with a white guy and had a child with him. She went off the rails years ago and he is raising the child. I FB friended him so that our family could stay in touch with her. Sadly, his feed reveals that despite his attraction to AA women, he is racist. It's not usually overt stuff, but enough to make most people of any race uncomfortable.

Last night, he posted (was tagged in?) a picture from last Halloween that showed him in a blackface costume!

My first reaction is to unfriend him. However, if I do so, my family will lose contact with his daughter, my cousin. She is only 8. I think given her father's racism, that having contact with her non-white family is especially important.

WWYD?