But a flat screen TV and set it up in the bedroom. If he wants to watch TV after 10pm, tell him to go into the bedroom and close the door.

My very first thought was 'have you talked to your dh about how this is your quiet time?' I agree with others who have commented that it your dh's actions might simply be his way of communicating to you in a very indirect way that he wants time with you instead of having you stay up late after he goes to bed. So, I do think the first thing you should do is to directly talk with your husband about the whole issue. Communication is the key to all lasting, healthy relationships. If you do talk with him you might let us know what he says.

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Anonymous wrote:I just showed your post to my husband in a spirit of 'see - we're not the only couple that struggles with the whole living together thing.' His response was to first agree and then comment "that husband is lonely. Guaranteed"

I responded with a "why doesn't he just tell his wife then" to which he gave me the look that implies obviously men don't talk about their feelings.

So take that for what it's worth. No idea if he's right of course, but it at least sounds plausible.

You got a smart hubby. Keep him.

+1

When it's his bedtime, "tuck him in," and cuddle and have sex, if you both feel like it. Then go back downstairs and have your quiet time. Works for me, and is good for our relationship.

Thats so annoying OP.

Can you tell him you need some quiet time and ask him to turn down the TV a bit and just leave you alone for an hour?


I am a writer so I'm used to telling people I need space for a while and to leave me alone! When you make it clear it's not about them, most people acquiesce.

Anonymous wrote:I just showed your post to my husband in a spirit of 'see - we're not the only couple that struggles with the whole living together thing.' His response was to first agree and then comment "that husband is lonely. Guaranteed"

I responded with a "why doesn't he just tell his wife then" to which he gave me the look that implies obviously men don't talk about their feelings.

So take that for what it's worth. No idea if he's right of course, but it at least sounds plausible.

You got a smart hubby. Keep him.

I just showed your post to my husband in a spirit of 'see - we're not the only couple that struggles with the whole living together thing.' His response was to first agree and then comment "that husband is lonely. Guaranteed"

I responded with a "why doesn't he just tell his wife then" to which he gave me the look that implies obviously men don't talk about their feelings.

So take that for what it's worth. No idea if he's right of course, but it at least sounds plausible.

Sometimes I have to hunt down the headphones and get them all hooked up for my DH just so I can have some peace and quiet. I read on the internet, while he blasts his sports clips, late night monologue highlights, and stupid obnoxious facebook videos. When he's really partying he watches his favorite Dave Chappelle shows he's already seen 100 times.

The one where Dave blasts across the bathroom from pooping has been viewed countless times in our house.

Go to another room. Go to bed early and let early morning be your quiet time. Talk to him about it!

Basically, be resourceful and fix your problems instead of bitching about them.

Scream at him "This is my quiet time!"

Get him head phones.

DH usually goes to bed around 10, which means I stay up till 11 or 12 so I can have some quiet, solitary peace, which I need in order to wind down for sleep. But lately he's been staying up late watching TV (sports) at full volume and providing me with his oh-so-scintillating running commentary. I feel grumpy and cheated every night.