Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:20     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Like PP above, my child with ADHD infuriates me every single day. And all too often I let him know that in no uncertain terms. On a couple of occasions he asked if I really loved him - those were heartbreaking moments.



I am just glad I'm not the only one who struggles with this. It makes you feel like such a shit parent, right? And the looks you get when your child acts out - I want to crawl in a hole somewhere. I have tried everything I can think of, stuff that has been recommended - nothing works, nothing seems to sink in. And I have no patience at all left. It makes me hate myself sometimes. I wish I could be zen about it, but I feel so beat down most of the time.

I likely will be needing medication as well before this is all over.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:10     Subject: Secret about your child

Like PP above, my child with ADHD infuriates me every single day. And all too often I let him know that in no uncertain terms. On a couple of occasions he asked if I really loved him - those were heartbreaking moments.

But... I also let him know how excellently he does certain things, like reading, and thinking outside the box, and being imaginative and creative. It's just not enough, apparently, to counter-balance all the things he struggles with, like rock-bottom processing speed. Once he took 5 hours to finish a 1 hour test. Talk about demoralizing.

And he is the sweetest, cutest child I know - much more so than my other kids.



Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:52     Subject: Secret about your child
Ok, then this is a secret about myself - I DON'T think my first is the most fabulous kid on earth. She is very, very difficult. She was diagnosed ADHD a couple years ago, and she's been on medication for a year. Things at school have improved, but not so much at home. We're working on finding therapy for the whole family, but trying to navigate that through our insurance company is not easy. The places that get recommended are out of network and way too pricey.

I love the child, but not a fan of the drama. It's just a daily slog and demoralizing for all.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:50     Subject: Secret about your child
I let my sister nurse my newborn son when I was tired a few times.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:41     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


Mine too! (dh is that you??)
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:36     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


How is this a secret? This is how parents are supposed to feel, how we are programmed to feel. Otherwise we'd leave them on the side of the road during the hard parts.

I promise you're children aren't inherently or objectively more likable.


Exactly. I find my children more beautiful, more intelligent, and more humorous than any other child I've met.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:33     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


How is this a secret? This is how parents are supposed to feel, how we are programmed to feel. Otherwise we'd leave them on the side of the road during the hard parts.

I promise you're children aren't inherently or objectively more likable.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:31     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


Isn't this how 95% of parents feel?


I would agree.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:28     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


Isn't this how 95% of parents feel?
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:28     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:My 2.5 yr still does 3 bottles a day.


My 3 yr old is on two bottles a day. Have I tried to make her quit!
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:26     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Because of the relationship I have with my mom I was scared when I found out I was having a girl. I also thought, now I have to pay for more with her for longer (sexist reasons). I also immediately assumed I wouldn't like her or get a long with her and that she wouldn't be smarter than her brother.

I have never been so wrong. I was wrong on all accounts. I am shocked by how much I love her, how close to her I am and how much I absolutely love being her mom. She's extremely smart too!!!
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:22     Subject: Secret about your child
My 5 year-old wanted to try breast milk again when the new baby was born, and I went along with it.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:21     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
My 2.5 yr still does 3 bottles a day.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:19     Subject: Secret about your child

My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 14:17     Subject: Secret about your child
Something you don't share with others.
Mine- I still need to rock my child to sleep.