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Anonymous wrote:It's not important to me. But I was never pretty. I've even had homeless people call me ugly. So I guess I grew up with the mindset that the competition or game was for other girls/women, and not for me. I have never been qualified to compete.

Even when I do everything I know how to do to look pretty, I still look ugly.

There is a good chance they weren't totally in there right mind so I hope you didn't take it to heart too much

*their. My bad.

Anonymous wrote:It's not important to me. But I was never pretty. I've even had homeless people call me ugly. So I guess I grew up with the mindset that the competition or game was for other girls/women, and not for me. I have never been qualified to compete.

Even when I do everything I know how to do to look pretty, I still look ugly.

There is a good chance they weren't totally in there right mind so I hope you didn't take it to heart too much

Anonymous wrote:It's not important to me. But I was never pretty. I've even had homeless people call me ugly. So I guess I grew up with the mindset that the competition or game was for other girls/women, and not for me. I have never been qualified to compete.

Even when I do everything I know how to do to look pretty, I still look ugly.

I hear you, sister. I've never had a homeless person call me ugly, but I've seen other women get free things or a have a guy buy her drinks (or the bartender give her a drink) right in front of me.

Anonymous wrote:Because people treat you better, and are nicer to you, when you're pretty.

It's pretty simple.

So do you never worry that your currency drops as you age? Do you share this value with your kids?

Anonymous wrote:Because people treat you better, and are nicer to you, when you're pretty.

It's pretty simple.

Do they really? How so?

Anonymous wrote:Because it's ingrained in us from a very young age that a woman's worth is directly tied to her beauty, and that concept is reinforced ad nauseam throughout our entire lives?

But...why? Why is our most important job to be beautiful?

I feel so bad noticing sometimes. I know a very accomplished ph.d in economics who is the primary breadwinner in her family, has a very handsome husband and 2 adorable children. And she pulls it all off pretty flawlessly. She does not, however, do her hair and makeup in the morning. I know some of our neighbors who always make comments about how, "if only she wore makeup, she'd look soo beautiful!!"

...wtf?

Because people treat you better, and are nicer to you, when you're pretty.

It's pretty simple.

Anonymous wrote:C'mon, because humans are social animals, and a woman's beauty is what society values most about her. Not hard to understand. However unfortunate, the preoccupation with beauty is completely rational.

Are you male or female? Either way, this is an awful statement to make.

I feel better about myself when I look beautiful.

Because it's ingrained in us from a very young age that a woman's worth is directly tied to her beauty, and that concept is reinforced ad nauseam throughout our entire lives?

C'mon, because humans are social animals, and a woman's beauty is what society values most about her. Not hard to understand. However unfortunate, the preoccupation with beauty is completely rational.

Positive attention. When you get it for just "being pretty," it's hard to see it disappear as you get older and more haggard looking.

Some might even say that it's just positive attention from men, but really, it's all positive attention.

It's not important to me. But I was never pretty. I've even had homeless people call me ugly. So I guess I grew up with the mindset that the competition or game was for other girls/women, and not for me. I have never been qualified to compete.

Even when I do everything I know how to do to look pretty, I still look ugly.

Because it's important to society.

Why do us women spend a lot of money, time and energy into looking our best? Why is it so important to us?