Anonymous
09/17/2015 11:24
Subject: Last minute visit..
She spoke to your husband about the details of her travel and left it to him to convey the message at an appropriate time. That sounds exactly right to me. You were still recovering, probably sleeping at odd hours whenever you could, and shouldn't have been bogged down the details of your MIL's travels. Your husband handled the logistics - exactly the role he's meant to play when you're incapacitated. Now, should he have conveyed that information to you? Sure, but that's on your husband, not your MIL. She did the right thing.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 10:11
Subject: Last minute visit..
I have a friend who operates this way - so when no "favor" is involved. Op it drives me crazy too.
I would wipe this instance from your memory. If a pattern develops over several visits with other visits, then yeah, it's not nice.
But no one was in "normal" mode. Let it go.
I would wipe this instance from your memory. If a pattern develops over several visits with other visits, then yeah, it's not nice.
But no one was in "normal" mode. Let it go.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 10:07
Subject: Last minute visit..
Anonymous wrote:I bet everything will be perfect when YOUR mom gets there.
LOLOLOL!
Anonymous
09/17/2015 09:51
Subject: Last minute visit..
I bet everything will be perfect when YOUR mom gets there.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 08:40
Subject: Last minute visit..
And if you wanted to know the specifics of when she was coming and going why didn't you just ask her like any adult person would?
Anonymous
09/17/2015 08:39
Subject: Last minute visit..
Worry about your baby Op. Sounds like you are just being petty.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 08:36
Subject: Last minute visit..
Anonymous wrote:Our 2nd baby arrived 3 weeks early.
My mom was coming for the scheduled birth at the end of the month. Because DD was born so early we had to call MIL. She was able to make it but bought one way ticket. Our relationship is respectful. She never told me when she was leaving not even the day she decided to return to her home town.
Am I wrong for wanting to know when she was leaving? Wouldn't you expect for someone that comes to your house let you know when are they leaving? I overheard a conversation wIth her and DH so that's how I knew she was leaving.
Vent over?!
So she told your DH didn't she? When I visit my in-laws and tell my MIL of our travel plans I don't have a separate conversation with my FIL. I assume that they, you know talk to each other.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 08:34
Subject: Last minute visit..
I'm going to chalk this up to post-partum hormones. Just...wow...
Anonymous
09/17/2015 08:22
Subject: Last minute visit..
+1 to the prior to posts
Anonymous
09/17/2015 07:16
Subject: Last minute visit..
So your DH knew and didn't tell you? Maybe you have a DH problem and not a MIL problem.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 06:06
Subject: Last minute visit..
So you called in a favor from your MIL, she dropped everything and flew out to help you and now you are bitching because she didn't tell you when she was leaving?? I'm sure she bought the one way ticket to be there for however long you needed her help. Communication sounds like a major issue if neither you or your DH told her how long to come for or asked her how long she intended to stay. She probably decided to leave because I'm going to assume by your post that you weren't very welcoming (even though she was there to do you a favor). Wow, just wow...
Anonymous
09/17/2015 02:20
Subject: Last minute visit..
Totally normal to want to know how long someone is staying in your home so you can plan things.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 01:46
Subject: Last minute visit..
Our 2nd baby arrived 3 weeks early.
My mom was coming for the scheduled birth at the end of the month. Because DD was born so early we had to call MIL. She was able to make it but bought one way ticket. Our relationship is respectful. She never told me when she was leaving not even the day she decided to return to her home town.
Am I wrong for wanting to know when she was leaving? Wouldn't you expect for someone that comes to your house let you know when are they leaving? I overheard a conversation wIth her and DH so that's how I knew she was leaving.
Vent over?!
My mom was coming for the scheduled birth at the end of the month. Because DD was born so early we had to call MIL. She was able to make it but bought one way ticket. Our relationship is respectful. She never told me when she was leaving not even the day she decided to return to her home town.
Am I wrong for wanting to know when she was leaving? Wouldn't you expect for someone that comes to your house let you know when are they leaving? I overheard a conversation wIth her and DH so that's how I knew she was leaving.
Vent over?!