Anonymous wrote:I am a 28 year old female who is coming to terms with my declining youth and beauty. It's so funny when I look at other women and notice similar patterns that I encountered growing up. Here is the life cycle of a woman as I experienced:

0-15 invisible
15-21 awkward years mostly invisible unless you're super hot
24- every guy wants to hit on you! Old guys, creepers, guys your age, younger guys
26+ invisible

At 28 I'm pretty invisible. No one hits on me anymore and I'm not cat called. Up until 23 I was pretty much invisible to guys as well. When i turned 24, however, all of a sudden I got so much attention out of nowhere! Everyone wanted to be with me and hit on me. This is also the age where I acquired my first boyfriend and my fiancé.


I've become invisible again. Now I see other 24 year old girls stopping traffic and being dawned on.

So funny. What's the big deal with a 24 year old female?

I just wrote above, but as I reread this, I realize that this is really a question you have to ask yourself. There is nothing special about being 24, but obviously there was something special about you at 24. Generally, I find confidence to be the key. Were you flying high on the new boyfriend and then did you fall flat once he was hooked?

I don't know OP. I am 34, married with kids, and got cat called on my walk to the metro this morning.

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Anonymous wrote:It all depends on how you look.

For many women, especially white women, there is a steep decline after 30. Wrinkles, weight gain, sagging skin, frumpiness. For them, of course the 30s are the best years.

For women who maintain their looks, the 30s bring as much attention as before. I was attractive in my 20s and I modeled. In my late 30s, I look the same (dark, oily skin = no wrinkles) except I am better dressed and know what hair styles, make up, and color choices look best on me. I am naturally slim, tight, and toned despite two children. Everything is sitting where it should be without that hard, hungry look that women who are not naturally thin get from working out too much.

I get even more male attention now. My husband hates it. Naturally, I love it.

I know I sound snotty. I wouldn't say it in real life, but I can be frank here. Good, youthful looks get lots of attention. Men don't care if the 25 year old-looking woman with the high round ass is really 38.

I think mid-thirties are so much better in every respect than mid-twenties.

^That should be "for them, the 20s are the best years."

Anonymous wrote:It all depends on how you look.

For many women, especially white women, there is a steep decline after 30. Wrinkles, weight gain, sagging skin, frumpiness. For them, of course the 30s are the best years.

For women who maintain their looks, the 30s bring as much attention as before. I was attractive in my 20s and I modeled. In my late 30s, I look the same (dark, oily skin = no wrinkles) except I am better dressed and know what hair styles, make up, and color choices look best on me. I am naturally slim, tight, and toned despite two children. Everything is sitting where it should be without that hard, hungry look that women who are not naturally thin get from working out too much.

I get even more male attention now. My husband hates it. Naturally, I love it.

I feel sad for you, OP. So you're saying you peaked for just a couple of years and it's all downhill and you're invisible? WTF?? You should seriously consider therapy. because that is just whack!

It all depends on how you look.

For many women, especially white women, there is a steep decline after 30. Wrinkles, weight gain, sagging skin, frumpiness. For them, of course the 30s are the best years.

For women who maintain their looks, the 30s bring as much attention as before. I was attractive in my 20s and I modeled. In my late 30s, I look the same (dark, oily skin = no wrinkles) except I am better dressed and know what hair styles, make up, and color choices look best on me. I am naturally slim, tight, and toned despite two children. Everything is sitting where it should be without that hard, hungry look that women who are not naturally thin get from working out too much.

I get even more male attention now. My husband hates it. Naturally, I love it.

Anonymous wrote:All I know is, I'm 44 and you couldn't pay me to go back to 24. This spot feels much sweeter than that one.

Second this. 44 here too, look and feel so much better about myself then in my mid 20s. 30s were not so great, small kids, loss of sleep, weight gain. Now I'm in great shape, active, happy about how I look and feel. It shows and people around me notice.

I just turned 30 and totally disagree. Something clicked this year and I feel like I'm really hitting my stride. I imagine 30-45 is the sweet spot for most women.

Okay...you are only 28, I think you are over analyzing things and you have plenty of time yet to enjoy your youth and beauty. In fact you are probably obsessing over approaching that 30 mark! I found some of my best year (looking best, feeling sexing, attracting men..) was 30+ I am now 44 and although I wish I were 10 years younger (who doesn't), I still wouldn't trade my 44 year old self for my 24 year old self. I am in better shape physically, emotionally, financially...etc... I feel pretty good about where I am and where I've come from and for the record I still attract men of many ages with most people thinking I'm younger than I am. My daughter's 21 year old guy friends tell her her mom is "hot".

So, why not take inventory? Look at your clothes, your style, attitude... are you in shape? Have you let yourself go? Be realistically honest, where could you use improvement. Put a plan into place to fix what needs improvement. It may seem a little vain to some, but hey...if you don't like something "fix it". (example... whiten your teeth, straighten your teeth, etc...) Invest in yourself and it will payoff. Don't just focus on "outward" beauty.. Work on the inner self too...becoming content with who you are.

When you start to love who you are and where you are in life you will attract other people to you...not just the old geezers...and not just for your "looks". And remember...you are still young! Take care of yourself and you can be an attractive sexy women on into your later years.

All I know is, I'm 44 and you couldn't pay me to go back to 24. This spot feels much sweeter than that one.

I was my most attractive and sexy I my late 30's early 40's. After kids. I just started working out more. Doing lots of yoga and developed a more confident style of dress.

Huh? Are you married? I don't think that's all that generalizable, but sorry you feel that way. My life has been filled with ups and downs. I wouldn't write yourself off yet, but maybe you need to work on how *you* feel rather than your perceived perception by random dudes. Your post however, reminded me of a huge creep I met when I was in high school- he was some friend of a friend who got invited to a neighborhood party. He was chatting me and some other girls up and said, "you know what's really awesome about being 24? You get really good at sex". Ewwww.

I am a 28 year old female who is coming to terms with my declining youth and beauty. It's so funny when I look at other women and notice similar patterns that I encountered growing up. Here is the life cycle of a woman as I experienced:

0-15 invisible
15-21 awkward years mostly invisible unless you're super hot
24- every guy wants to hit on you! Old guys, creepers, guys your age, younger guys
26+ invisible

At 28 I'm pretty invisible. No one hits on me anymore and I'm not cat called. Up until 23 I was pretty much invisible to guys as well. When i turned 24, however, all of a sudden I got so much attention out of nowhere! Everyone wanted to be with me and hit on me. This is also the age where I acquired my first boyfriend and my fiancé.


I've become invisible again. Now I see other 24 year old girls stopping traffic and being dawned on.

So funny. What's the big deal with a 24 year old female?