Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you thought about getting an Automatic for her car? You plug it in the car and track on your phone. It gives a warning for hard brakes, hard accels, will text people you choose if you're in an accident, and basically track every trip the car makes. You could add the app to your phone, and supervise/spy her driving until you feel more comfortable.

Do not do this.

There are reasons for hard brakes and accels if others on the road are driving poorly.

This thing is just going to Damage your relationship.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm at an impasse with my DH. He has been teaching my DD to drive and she just took and passed her driver's test. My DH is still working with her on a few refinements before completely letting her out on her own. He has laid down some rules:

1. To and from school
2. To and from work
3. To and from sports practice
4. No friends in the car
5. No cell phone
6. No moving violations

He is ready to let her drive to school on her own. I am not willing or ready yet to let go of my control of her. I am afraid she will have an accident, be seriously injured, etc. I do not know how to handle this as I think my DD and DH are against me. Last week, in front of his brother, he told me she is ready and that I should let her drive. It pissed me off so much.

Anyway, am I being unreasonable, overprotective?

From an outsider's point of view, reread the bolded portion above, and then reread your question. The answer's self-evident, isn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you thought about getting an Automatic for her car? You plug it in the car and track on your phone. It gives a warning for hard brakes, hard accels, will text people you choose if you're in an accident, and basically track every trip the car makes. You could add the app to your phone, and supervise/spy her driving until you feel more comfortable.

Do not do this.

Have you thought about getting an Automatic for her car? You plug it in the car and track on your phone. It gives a warning for hard brakes, hard accels, will text people you choose if you're in an accident, and basically track every trip the car makes. You could add the app to your phone, and supervise/spy her driving until you feel more comfortable.

OP, you need to let go and perhaps get some help for YOUR anxiety. It must be exhausting for you (in addition to being annoying for those around you!).

Anonymous wrote:OP, you weren't willing to be the one to teach her, so you have no power here. Your husband's opinion is what matters.

My DH more or less forbade me to . . . and said that when I do ride with her I am to keep my "back seat driver" tendencies to myself because, and I quote, our daughter "does not need that distraction." I've driven with her twice, and each time afterward heard how I just made her nervous from DH and from her.

If she passed the test then she is ready. Let her drive

Anonymous wrote:I'm at an impasse with my DH. He has been teaching my DD to drive and she just took and passed her driver's test. My DH is still working with her on a few refinements before completely letting her out on her own. He has laid down some rules:

1. To and from school
2. To and from work
3. To and from sports practice
4. No friends in the car
5. No cell phone
6. No moving violations

He is ready to let her drive to school on her own. I am not willing or ready yet to let go of my control of her. I am afraid she will have an accident, be seriously injured, etc. I do not know how to handle this as I think my DD and DH are against me. Last week, in front of his brother, he told me she is ready and that I should let her drive. It pissed me off so much.

Anyway, am I being unreasonable, overprotective?

From an outsider's point of view, reread the bolded portion above, and then reread your question. The answer's self-evident, isn't it?

OP, you weren't willing to be the one to teach her, so you have no power here. Your husband's opinion is what matters.

Yes, you're being unreasonable. Have you sat in the car with her while she's driven? If not, maybe you need to see how well she can drive. If there are specific things she does that worry you, tell her and take her driving to practice. When I drove at first, I got too close to the cars in front of me and didn't apply the brake aggressively enough, and really had to work on that.

But overall, I think you're wrong. Your nervousness is your problem. Don't make it your daughter's problem.

I don't understand. Why did you allow her to get her license if you do not want her drive?

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only way she's going to learn is to practice. You are being over protective and actually detrimental. She needs to be alone, learn how to drive competently and develop the confidence to do so. You, sitting in the passenger side, gasping and slamming your foot on the ground every 10 seconds isn't going to help her.

Power down those rotors. DH is 100% right.

PP here. I will say it was very rude of him to criticize you in front of your brother. That would piss me off as well.

OP, the only way she's going to learn is to practice. You are being over protective and actually detrimental. She needs to be alone, learn how to drive competently and develop the confidence to do so. You, sitting in the passenger side, gasping and slamming your foot on the ground every 10 seconds isn't going to help her.

Power down those rotors. DH is 100% right.

How is she going to learn how to drive alone, if she never drives alone? What you want to do is give her as many hours of experience as possible now while she is home. In other words, I agree completely with your husband.

I'm at an impasse with my DH. He has been teaching my DD to drive and she just took and passed her driver's test. My DH is still working with her on a few refinements before completely letting her out on her own. He has laid down some rules:

1. To and from school
2. To and from work
3. To and from sports practice
4. No friends in the car
5. No cell phone
6. No moving violations

He is ready to let her drive to school on her own. I am not willing or ready yet to let go of my control of her. I am afraid she will have an accident, be seriously injured, etc. I do not know how to handle this as I think my DD and DH are against me. Last week, in front of his brother, he told me she is ready and that I should let her drive. It pissed me off so much.

Anyway, am I being unreasonable, overprotective?