Oh my, how I wish my mother was accepting of my teenage binge eating. I used to take a box of cookies to the bathroom, but every night get in trouble for not eating dinner. She knew what I was doing.
Good for the OP for recognizing this and wanting to help out.
But also recognize this is about something other than eating.
(Mine was parents' divorce, adolescence, etc).

Good luck.

OP here - Thanks for all the advice...appreciate it!

OP -

I am sure you already know this but binge eating comes from feelings of shame, and/or her fear that you will disapprove of how much she actually eats.

You need to help her understand that she doesn't need to feel ashamed and doesn't need to hide from you. So no more complaining about her food intake, if that is what's happening. Just let her eat freely in front of you, and then get her counseling.

Anonymous wrote:No help with suggestions, but do check out www.feast-ed.org and their discussion forum, www.aroundthedinnertable.org

Here's a good place to read some good advice from parents who have been there: http://atdthalloffame.feast-ed.org/

Great websites.

I was definitely binge eating by age 8 and strictly carbs, mostly sweet ones, but sometimes neutral things like bread or biscuits. My parents tried several approaches including an inpatient program. Please keep trying things and don't give up. Listen to what she tells you about how trigger foods make her feel --it may sound crazy but she really feels that way. Create new family traditions that don't revolve around food.

Former binge eater and anorexic here. 13-34 years of age.
One thing, teach her how to allow and enjoy treats without shame. So don't let her sneak candy, have it together as a treat that you say bring home for her.
If she binges on cereal and cookies etc. absolutely do not buy them and have them in the house. It will be a losing battle.
I started binging at age 10 and still do. I used starving myself to punish and control the weight.
Thing about eliminating sugary or starchy foods randomly in the house but have them as dessert etc.
I say this as a person who when nothing was left in the house would make frosting etc or eat stupid food just to binge.
I also used to binge late at night or when home alone to numb feelings
She may need to learn a coping mechanism

If you join the forum posted above, there is a section you can view and post comments for specific therapists and medical providers.

No help with suggestions, but do check out www.feast-ed.org and their discussion forum, www.aroundthedinnertable.org

Here's a good place to read some good advice from parents who have been there: http://atdthalloffame.feast-ed.org/

I recently discovered my daughter is secretly bingeing and I am scared to death about how to help her. Could anyone recommend a good therapist or program in or near Fairfax?