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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35. He was 49. Neither of us had been married before. Neither of us is crazy. I did waste some time on knuckle-draggers like you and your friend in my 20s and early 30s. That's why I was so old.

How long have you been married, if you don't mind me asking? (NP here)

2 1/2 years.

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35. He was 49. Neither of us had been married before. Neither of us is crazy. I did waste some time on knuckle-draggers like you and your friend in my 20s and early 30s. That's why I was so old.

How long have you been married, if you don't mind me asking? (NP here)

I met my husband at 35. He was 49. Neither of us had been married before. Neither of us is crazy. I did waste some time on knuckle-draggers like you and your friend in my 20s and early 30s. That's why I was so old.

I have known some intelligent and successful women that, for whatever reason, hitched their SO wagon to the wrong men and wasted a lot of time because of it.

Patience and getting to know her will eventually tell the tale.

Anonymous wrote:Some people marry young, discover their spouse is not the right partner for them and end up divorced with kids. Other people may be a bit gunshy and end up marrying later. Why does anyone in either group have to be crazy?

Because it's very important to keep women in their place. If you let them believe they are free to use their own judgment in running their lives, next thing you know they'll demand driver's licenses, pay equity, orgasms, and equal household contributions. They need to feel terrible about themselves so their expectations of men stay low.

Some people marry young, discover their spouse is not the right partner for them and end up divorced with kids. Other people may be a bit gunshy and end up marrying later. Why does anyone in either group have to be crazy?

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your friend knows you are doing this.

Or whether he considers you a friend at all.

Or if there is no "friend" and OP is asking for himself.

Anonymous wrote:Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.

Well there's obviously something wrong with her.

Anonymous wrote:Is she "crazy". Friend is dating a woman who is never married at 35. Good looking and has had a lot of boyfriends including a number of long term relationships. She talks about marriage and kids but has all these nebulous reasons for why she never got engaged or married. Run away?

Why don't you just ask her? Or actually - how is this your business?

But now that you bring it up - give us your 'friend's' stats? Age? Has he been married? Your post is a little sexist.

I wonder if your friend knows you are doing this.

Or whether he considers you a friend at all.

Oh lord, you are going to piss off a lot of people with this post!

She could be crazy. Or she could be the most amazing woman who is perfect for your friend. The only way to find out is for your friend to give it time and get to know her. Its really that simple.

I remember guys asking me why I didn't have a boyfriend when I was in my late 20s, as if there was something wrong with me for being single. I just hadn't found the right person and wasn't going to waste my time in the wrong relationship when I could be in the right one. I never had several long term relationships that didn't work out. I didn't have any need for that kind of drama. Fast forward to now, and I've been with my husband for over 5 years and we've been happily married for over 3 and we have the most amazing 15 month old baby boy. If he had assumed I was "crazy" for being single, we never would have built this amazing life! I get some people may say there is difference between being single in your late 20s and mid 30s, but the same reasoning still applies.

No. Like many of us, she is probably just getting her act together at 35 and is perfect for the picking. Tell your friend to be thankful that she has never been married and wants kids, but does not bring an ex-husband into the picture.

Anonymous wrote:Is she "crazy". Friend is dating a woman who is never married at 35. Good looking and has had a lot of boyfriends including a number of long term relationships. She talks about marriage and kids but has all these nebulous reasons for why she never got engaged or married. Run away?

If your friend thinks anything like you do, yes SHE should run away.

Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.

Is she "crazy". Friend is dating a woman who is never married at 35. Good looking and has had a lot of boyfriends including a number of long term relationships. She talks about marriage and kids but has all these nebulous reasons for why she never got engaged or married. Run away?