Anonymous wrote:Usually once she gets her period, she's within a half inch of her final height.

Our ped said that the younger a girl is, the more inches she will grow after. Later period

means she is pretty much done growing.

Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily PP. I got my period when I was 11 and I was just about to hit 5 ft. I stopped growing around 3 yrs later and I'm 5 ft 4 in.

Thanks for the info. I read the above in a health article but that obviously doesn't mean it's true.

Not necessarily PP. I got my period when I was 11 and I was just about to hit 5 ft. I stopped growing around 3 yrs later and I'm 5 ft 4 in.

Usually once she gets her period, she's within a half inch of her final height.

Even victoria secret models have stretch marks.

This happened to my DD. It is because they stop growing but haven't cut the calories. During those growth spurts they eat and eat. But once the growing slows, the calories need to drop. Some kids do this. My DD wasn't. She was "starving" a few hours after dinner, ate junk and didn't proportion right. We had to work on that and increase the exercise

I think you need to worry much more about the act that your healthy daughter will not wear a bathing suit in summer than about the 20 pounds. Somehow she has learned to hate the body she is in, or to think that 20 pounds makes her a pariah that must be hidden.

Encourage her, tell her she is beautiful, get her out, make sure you are not reinforcing your own fat phobia with her. Body shame like this at 14 can lead to much worse problems than 20 extra pounds. (I thought I was fat and horrific at 140 pounds in high school at 5'7". My mom made me feel awful, talked about Weight wWatchers, lots of talk about how hard it is to lose weight once you're older. Lots of shame. I carried it, hid myself, and just got bigger and sadder and more ostracized.)

Her shape has changed just a small bit. Your reaction can't be helping. Bring HER back. Her shape will never be what it was when she was your little skinny girl - she's a woman now. And maybe will be a bigger woman. But don't diminish her.

Does her body shape now resemble anyone in your family or your DH's family? I have two teen daughters and have noticed a few thin/petite moms struggle to accept it when their cute petite daughters go through puberty and end up bigger boned or with their MIL's bigger butt, or whatever.

She got her period a little on the later side so she might be done growing height-wise a year later.

Also, I'd say see if it evens out some, or if its a continual gain over the next few months- but talking to her doctor and the other suggestions could easily be done in conjunction.

Here is the thing. There are some women that literally would have to fight tooth and nail to keep their bodies skinny or even thin/ thinner. I am one of them. Am I way over weight- no, actually I have a normal BMI but my body holds onto weight and I stay at the top range and I LOOK heavier than I am. I struggled with this a lot as a swimmer growing up- I mean what person both looks "bad" in a bathingsuit yet manages to kick butt while wearing one?!

I've been able to be thinner during my life but I won't pretend that it doesn't also come at a pretty decent sacrifice to the quality of my life. For some there is no "moderation"- what is moderate for most makes me stay chunky looking. Even though I am super healthy according to the numbers. Just like there are people who can be naturally skinny and eat moderately, there are those that will always carry an extra 10-20 pounds and eat moderately.

If your daughter isn't in a gaining pattern but ends up holding at this shape (and remember she could thin out as she ages- I actually did a bit), that might be something you guys just have to deal with.

I got stretch marks on my hips and thighs due to rapid growth when I was a freshman in college, and they're pretty much invisible now. I think it's genetic. Just got back from the beach and noticed stretch marks on many, many women--young and old, skinny and not so skinny.

Some girls fill out before their periods, many girls fill out after their periods. If you are concerned, and you trust your pediatrician, then talk to your pediatrician -- without your daughter.

Also it might help to talk to the women on your daughter's father's side of the family, if possible. Ask them what their bodies did, before and after they got their periods.

I would have bloodwork done and have her checked for PCOS or thyroid problems.

If she's gaining weight, the calories are coming from somewhere.

First, take an honest look at the way your family eats at home. Track the calories for a few days. You might be extremely surprised.

But if you find that you really are feeding your family a healthy diet, you need to take a closer look at what dd is eating when you aren't around. I have a feeling you will find that she is buying candy, soda, chips or something that you don't know about. At the end of the school year, I finally took a close look at my kids' purchase history on their school lunch accounts. I found out that they had both been buying an ice cream or cookie most days. Since I didn't know this, I had also been letting them have ice cream or something for dessert in the evening.

I think you should talk to her pediatrician. Without your daughter.

Saw the earlier post on this subject a week or so ago, but I'm a bit concerned about my DD's recent weight gain because it has mostly followed the onset of her first period not preceded it (as most on that thread had described). She's 14, and since getting her first period last August, she's put on about 20 pounds really quickly--mostly in the last six months--while only gaining a quarter inch or so in height. I understand that puberty brings with it a certain amount of womanly "padding", but her newly round belly and face and the stretch marks on her hips and the front of her thighs are a bit jarring, especially given that she's always been a skinny kid. I'm just being honest here; I've never said anything negative to her about her body (or mine, for that matter). Still, she's now super self conscious (won't wear a swimsuit, etc.). We eat healthful foods and snacks and she really doesn't seem to be eating any differently; we also model good exercise habits, but she's never been much of an athlete or into team sports so finding consistent exercise outlets has been a challenge. My sense is that she's going to get taller so am I worrying over nothing? Or should I be doing something?