Anonymous wrote:I totally agree.
I worked for a family law firm, and seeing almost every single fucking one of the women in these relationships be the ones who got fucked over cured me of my romanticism forever.
I'm 26 but my life plan is to have kids out of wedlock, either through the sperm bank or just getting with a guy, getting pregnant and not telling him (preferably an ex, someone I care about and respect), and raise them on my own.
I know everyone will say I'm crazy and it's harder than I realize but I have seen my mom be a single mom. And it was way easier than raising kids and having to deal with an overbearing asshole husband at the same time.
My dad is a divorce lawyer and the most jaded person I have ever known, so I get that.
On the other hand, what it is about marriage that is a bad deal for women, assuming of course they marry a decent man? I look at my DW's set up. SAHM, I am very active with kids. I provide a high upper middle class lifestyle. I am totally cool with her taking whatever time she needs - she takes girls weekends away a couple times a year.
I am not saying marriage doesn't have its ups and downs. There are trade-offs for both of us, and I find monogamy and living with a low libido spouse soul crushing at times. Marriage involves a lot of compromise and sacrafice for both partners. But I also hear from her friends who are single moms who struggle mightily and I have a hard time imagining that is an easier more fulfilling choice than marriage to a good partner.
Certainly being single is far better than being married to a selfish partner but would you feel the same way if you had a committed partner and if so why?