Anonymous
08/15/2015 09:09
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
If you gently and lovingly express your concern, might she be receptive? Can she handle feedback or criticism?
Anonymous
08/15/2015 00:16
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
Can you visit or offer to take your nephew for a weekend once a month or so? It would give your sister a break she can look forward to, and you can also build your own relationship with your nephew. It would be helpful for him to get away from his tense Mom once in a while and experience a calmer environment. He'll also learn he has other family he can count on.
I think your sister would also benefit from a good parenting class. You can suggest she ask her son's pediatrician, teacher or the director of the childcare center. Or send her a copy of a good parenting book. I always liked the techniques in "Parenting with Love and Logic."
I think your sister would also benefit from a good parenting class. You can suggest she ask her son's pediatrician, teacher or the director of the childcare center. Or send her a copy of a good parenting book. I always liked the techniques in "Parenting with Love and Logic."
Anonymous
08/14/2015 21:19
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
OP I think you know this isn't acceptable. I suspect your sister does too.
Does she have insurance? Is it possible for her to see a psych or counselor? She needs to talk to someone about more constructive ways of dealing with her frustrations around her son now. It has a huge effect. I have blocked out huge parts of my childhood because of the tension from the yelling.
This is something she can turn around -- he's still young and it sounds like you love her and she cares, but it's hard.
Does she have insurance? Is it possible for her to see a psych or counselor? She needs to talk to someone about more constructive ways of dealing with her frustrations around her son now. It has a huge effect. I have blocked out huge parts of my childhood because of the tension from the yelling.
This is something she can turn around -- he's still young and it sounds like you love her and she cares, but it's hard.
Anonymous
08/14/2015 18:37
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree she's overwhelmed. So do I just ignore it? I'm afraid it's negatively impacting my nephew.
No, you think of stuff you could do that would help her not be overwhelmed, and then you offer to do that stuff.
Honestly no. That lets the sister off easy. Fact is, life is hard sometimes. Theres not always gonna be someone there to take the load off... That doesn't mean that you lose your shit at your three year old.
-child of an emotionally/verbally abusive home.
Anonymous
08/14/2015 07:09
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree she's overwhelmed. So do I just ignore it? I'm afraid it's negatively impacting my nephew.
No, you think of stuff you could do that would help her not be overwhelmed, and then you offer to do that stuff.
Anonymous
08/14/2015 06:13
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree she's overwhelmed. So do I just ignore it? I'm afraid it's negatively impacting my nephew.
Does she have help locally? If not can you visit and give her some time away? Or give her a few hours with a mothers helper every week? (I realize this may not be possible but it would be helpful to them both.)
Anonymous
08/14/2015 00:38
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
Yes, I agree she's overwhelmed. So do I just ignore it? I'm afraid it's negatively impacting my nephew.
Anonymous
08/14/2015 00:32
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
She is overwhelmed with life, hence the shouting.
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:50
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
I have a cousin who lives near her.
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:38
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
Lives
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:38
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
Do you know any of her friends? Anyone who lived near her?
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:31
Subject: Re:What to do about verbal abuse
The father is not in the picture at all.
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:28
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
Tell us about the father.
Anonymous
08/13/2015 23:13
Subject: What to do about verbal abuse
My sister is very verbally abusive to her 3 year old. I've talked to her about it multiple times to know avail. What should I do? I feel so bad for my nephew. She lives out of state and I do not see them often, but Herat her abusing him regularly over the phone.