Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Perhaps

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

Are you now with your affair partner?

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

The therapist we took her to to help cope with our divorce asked, in the way that therapists do. I ask. Her dad asks. Everyone, including her, agrees that her life is marvelous.

I'm sorry your divorce/your parents' divorce/your marriage/your ideology is so bitter though. I hope you know that not everyone shares your experience of the world.

Anonymous wrote:My AP would want sex right before and right after vacations. He would have sex with the partner sometimes on vacation, but not always.

That sounds lovely. You're living the dream...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

My AP would want sex right before and right after vacations. He would have sex with the partner sometimes on vacation, but not always.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

My ex used to cancel family vacations at the last minute "because of work issues". He was actually going on separate vacations with his mistresses. Nice!

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

Good for you. You realized what you were involved in and rectified it as best you could.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

Good for you. You realized what you were involved in and rectified it as best you could.

I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Or, did your disgust for yourself grow or shrink as you carried out the charade of being a family?

Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?