i don't think dudes care at all! How sweet of you to do anything at all!

If your bil is anything like my dh, he really doesn't care. My sister and I don't even do bday gifts for each other!

If you get a thoughtful gift, the price difference is not going to matter much. It's not like we're talking hundreds. What is the difference? About $50?

I've found that generally people don't concern themselves with the cost of a gift and mostly are happy to be remembered.

My sister and brother in law have birthdays in the same month, and I've struggled with trying to decide how "equal" their presents need to be.

They live far away, so I see them a few times a year. When I'm shopping for gifts, I of course look for things they'll enjoy , but sometimes what I'd like to get for my sister is a bit more pricey than his gift. It might even be twice as much (not huge amounts here, probably still under $100).

Does it matter? Is it natural that her gift might be a little more expensive or extravagant? FWIW, I'm not making a ton of money, but am comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I should "make up" for his and get an extra gift card... But I'd never get my sister a gift card!

What do others do in similar situations? TIA for any input.