Anonymous wrote:Yes, one child stays signed on to Instagram on my laptop and the other on my iPad. They post absurdly boring photos of the dog or popular entertainment people. It's been well over a year and I have never, ever seen anything inappropriate from them. I didn't expect to and that's not why I look. I have however certainly learned a lot about other people's children from what they post though!

This. You would be surprised at what many of the friends are posting, even the kids you think are the quietest when you're around them. You can also tell which kids know that their parents never check out their posts.

I don't know... maybe, it is probably the same as their email address... I have that because sometime I need to log in for them.

But, for Instagram, it is like FB, they are "friends" with their grandparents, cousins, neighbors and coaches.

Snapchat, it won't help to know their pw.

If you are worried you need some software that emails you every keystroke.

Yes, one child stays signed on to Instagram on my laptop and the other on my iPad. They post absurdly boring photos of the dog or popular entertainment people. It's been well over a year and I have never, ever seen anything inappropriate from them. I didn't expect to and that's not why I look. I have however certainly learned a lot about other people's children from what they post though!

And here comes the dissenting voice...no, I don't. it's there business. We have an amazingly open and communicative relationship, and I feel, I kmow as much if not more of what is going on this way. I will stand by this. My kids have a really healthy relationship with me and media.

Yes, and they don't have snapchat

I know it, but I guessed the password and didn't tell him that I know. I don't monitor them anymore.

Yes and if the passwords are changed or they get new accounts they don't tell me about they lose their electronics.

Yes for Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat. The only thing with Snapchat is that other than looking at snap stories you really can't see what has been sent or received. You can see who they are snapchatting but not what.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I also know about the accounts he doesn't think I know about.

Definitely check for this.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I also know about the accounts he doesn't think I know about.

That's always handy too.

I have our teen's passwords. Either we have them or he doesn't have internet etc.

Goode for you for making your kids aware of internet security. So many kids are so blasé about what they put out there on their various social media accounts. When it comes time to apply to college, some of them suddenly realize that they should have been a little more circumspect.


It's good to have ongoing conversations about it through those early teen years. My daughter thought I was a little bit crazy to be always talking about how careful she should be, but there have been a few recent incidents that made her glad that I was always after her to be careful.

Yes. I also know about the accounts he doesn't think I know about.

I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

My rule was that my dd had to tell me her password for anything and everything when I asked or she would not have a computer/phone. Period.

My teens both use them and I'd like to see what they post so I'm going to ask them for their passwords.
How many of you check your kids social media accounts? What kind of feedback do you get from your kids when you do?