Anonymous
07/28/2015 22:00
Subject: Family Beach house drama
I'd cancel too. Say you were really looking forward to alone time or time within and dad or
Whatever, and you'll reschedule at a time that's com isn't for everyone. No way woudl I share a bathroom!
Whatever, and you'll reschedule at a time that's com isn't for everyone. No way woudl I share a bathroom!
Anonymous
07/28/2015 22:00
Subject: Re:Family Beach house drama
Anonymous wrote:You don't want your kids to spend time with their cousins? Or is there a set week for your family to see their cousins?
I really do want them to spend time together and I didn't mention this earlier but that is one of the hardest parts about making this decision. My nieces and nephews are almost like my own kids since I waited longer to start a family. I want our children to have a relationship with each other. At the same time I only get a set amount of vacation a year and a certain amount of time with my parents.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:57
Subject: Family Beach house drama
Not the PP but there are 25 cousins in our family. The teens love the preschoolers. We only see them twice a year so it is fun. Not really that odd.
OP just rent a house nearby. If your parents aren't going to enforce the schedule (I do wonder if what your sisters think of this schedule) then really you can't make it happen on your own.
OP just rent a house nearby. If your parents aren't going to enforce the schedule (I do wonder if what your sisters think of this schedule) then really you can't make it happen on your own.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:56
Subject: Re:Family Beach house drama
Anonymous wrote:Could you postpone your trip to the beach house until Sept - since it sounds like you have the flexibility for a Sept vaca anyway. Sister with teens and sister who is a teacher would both be occupied then. You could explain to your parents that you'd really like one on one time with them and a less hectic setting. Depending how far the house is, you could still do a 3 day weekend in early Aug so your family gets to spend time with your sisters and their families, too.
This. Reschedule for Sept (if it can't be at this beach house then somewhere else) and do a long weekend with the whole gang in August. No way would I stay in a house full of people and only one bathroom for any longer than a weekend.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:56
Subject: Family Beach house drama
You really lose perspective when you start taking a family asset/luxury for granted.
The beach house is a great bonus. Use it for all the benefits it offers for recreation and bonding times. Be grateful. Then move on.
The beach house is a great bonus. Use it for all the benefits it offers for recreation and bonding times. Be grateful. Then move on.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:54
Subject: Re:Family Beach house drama
Anonymous wrote:You don't want your kids to spend time with their cousins? Or is there a set week for your family to see their cousins?
Teenagers and preschoolers don't do a lot together. Stop trying to make OP sound selfish. You must be an imposing sister in your family thinking cousins should get together.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:52
Subject: Re:Family Beach house drama
You don't want your kids to spend time with their cousins? Or is there a set week for your family to see their cousins?
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:49
Subject: Family Beach house drama
Not cool that you all agreed to a schedule and they just decided not to honor it. I'd bring this up after the fact in a way that won't make them feel defensive, and ask again if next year they would agree to allow you the space you'd requested.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:46
Subject: Family Beach house drama
Not cool that your sisters are crowding you out. One bathroom for everyone? Your parents, you and DH, and your kids = at least 6 people already. That sucks.
Bag the trip or else just go for a couple of days and then head elsewhere to do your own thing.
Bag the trip or else just go for a couple of days and then head elsewhere to do your own thing.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:44
Subject: Family Beach house drama
If it doesn't work for you then change plans. It seems to work for your other family members so I wouldn't begrudge them that. It doesn't seem reasonable to demand alone time at the beach house when you know they generally spend extended time there. Can you rent a house close to it so you can be there but have your own space?
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:37
Subject: Family Beach house drama
I'd cancel. What a nightmare!
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:35
Subject: Re:Family Beach house drama
Could you postpone your trip to the beach house until Sept - since it sounds like you have the flexibility for a Sept vaca anyway. Sister with teens and sister who is a teacher would both be occupied then. You could explain to your parents that you'd really like one on one time with them and a less hectic setting. Depending how far the house is, you could still do a 3 day weekend in early Aug so your family gets to spend time with your sisters and their families, too.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:35
Subject: Family Beach house drama
I would bag it. Kinda messed up on your sustrs's parts.
WTF!!
No way I could enjoy all those people.
What was the point of a sked.
WTF!!
No way I could enjoy all those people.
What was the point of a sked.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:34
Subject: Family Beach house drama
Anonymous wrote:My parents have a beach house that has been in our family for years. Pre kids DH and I would spend one week there and the go elsewhere on our own vacation. I have two sisters. One doesn't work and the other is a teacher so they typically spend about 6 to 8 weeks there so it has always felt like there wasn't a lot of room especially when my older sister started having kids.
Now that I have two kids and I want to spend some time there in the summer. Last summer we made a schedule so each of the siblings would have one week there with just our parents. DH and I have the most inflexible schedules so we really only have a set vacation. A few days before we were set to go to the beach big sister who doesn't have kids announced she would overlap with us both weeks.
This summer I've learned my sister with three teenagers has decided to extend her six week stay so that they will be there for the whole time I'm there. I'm happy to spend part of the vacay with her but two weeks with three teenagers and one bathroom seems tough. I'm also annoyed because she asked if we could postpone our trip until August since her kids have preseason. Now they've decided to go to preseason late so the can squeeze in one more week of summer.
I know this is ultimately my parents' decision but we siblings made an agreement and they aren't sticking to it. I'm thinking of just canceling the vacation, and doing our own thing in September (elsewhere) since our kids are still in preschool. DH worries it will cause family drama but I feel like we only get so much time for our nuclear family we should do something with the four of us.
This. The beach house scenario sounds like a nightmare.
Anonymous
07/28/2015 21:29
Subject: Family Beach house drama
My parents have a beach house that has been in our family for years. Pre kids DH and I would spend one week there and the go elsewhere on our own vacation. I have two sisters. One doesn't work and the other is a teacher so they typically spend about 6 to 8 weeks there so it has always felt like there wasn't a lot of room especially when my older sister started having kids.
Now that I have two kids and I want to spend some time there in the summer. Last summer we made a schedule so each of the siblings would have one week there with just our parents. DH and I have the most inflexible schedules so we really only have a set vacation. A few days before we were set to go to the beach big sister who doesn't have kids announced she would overlap with us both weeks.
This summer I've learned my sister with three teenagers has decided to extend her six week stay so that they will be there for the whole time I'm there. I'm happy to spend part of the vacay with her but two weeks with three teenagers and one bathroom seems tough. I'm also annoyed because she asked if we could postpone our trip until August since her kids have preseason. Now they've decided to go to preseason late so the can squeeze in one more week of summer.
I know this is ultimately my parents' decision but we siblings made an agreement and they aren't sticking to it. I'm thinking of just canceling the vacation, and doing our own thing in September (elsewhere) since our kids are still in preschool. DH worries it will cause family drama but I feel like we only get so much time for our nuclear family we should do something with the four of us.
Now that I have two kids and I want to spend some time there in the summer. Last summer we made a schedule so each of the siblings would have one week there with just our parents. DH and I have the most inflexible schedules so we really only have a set vacation. A few days before we were set to go to the beach big sister who doesn't have kids announced she would overlap with us both weeks.
This summer I've learned my sister with three teenagers has decided to extend her six week stay so that they will be there for the whole time I'm there. I'm happy to spend part of the vacay with her but two weeks with three teenagers and one bathroom seems tough. I'm also annoyed because she asked if we could postpone our trip until August since her kids have preseason. Now they've decided to go to preseason late so the can squeeze in one more week of summer.
I know this is ultimately my parents' decision but we siblings made an agreement and they aren't sticking to it. I'm thinking of just canceling the vacation, and doing our own thing in September (elsewhere) since our kids are still in preschool. DH worries it will cause family drama but I feel like we only get so much time for our nuclear family we should do something with the four of us.