Anonymous wrote:I'm a never-been-married 40 year old woman and I've been in an affair with a 55 year old married man for 3 years. I'm happy. I love him, he loves me, sex is great, non-sex time is great. I don't want anything to change. Several of my closest women friends have told me they think I am wrong for being involved with a married guy. I say, "I'm not the one who took the vows. I'm not deceiving anyone." Should I re-think this?

If he wasn't able to be intimate with someone while married he would divorce. that may be worse for his DW than an affair. none of us know.

Anonymous wrote:Of course you're wrong OP. You can't possibly be serious in your question. Something is seriously wrong with your moral compass - it's totally broken.

I'm a single 35 year old women. I've had married men hit on me. I ignore them, because I have fucking morals. For carrying on 3 years KNOWING he is married, you're a pretty awful person. He is also a pretty awful person.

Hopefully one day you both will grow and not be awful human beings.

mmm hmmm. judgy isn't sexy.

Yes.

Yes you are. He took vows with another person and you are complicit in his breaking those. You have a lot to atone for

Of course you're wrong OP. You can't possibly be serious in your question. Something is seriously wrong with your moral compass - it's totally broken.

I'm a single 35 year old women. I've had married men hit on me. I ignore them, because I have fucking morals. For carrying on 3 years KNOWING he is married, you're a pretty awful person. He is also a pretty awful person.

Hopefully one day you both will grow and not be awful human beings.

Yes, you are wrong and not too bright if you have to ask.

No, you're not wrong. His marriage has nothing to do with you. But I do agree that you should not entertain any expectations of faithfulness if he should ever leave this wife for you.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a never-been-married 40 year old woman and I've been in an affair with a 55 year old married man for 3 years. I'm happy. I love him, he loves me, sex is great, non-sex time is great. I don't want anything to change. Several of my closest women friends have told me they think I am wrong for being involved with a married guy. I say, "I'm not the one who took the vows. I'm not deceiving anyone." Should I re-think this?

Yes. You are wrong.

Not to worry. If he cheats on his wife, he's probably cheating on both of you too. There is probably a reason why you are single.

Yes, you are wrong. One person can't have an affair without a cooperative affair partner.

You are just as wrong as he is.

Of course you are wrong, and its shocking you would even have to ask. Obviously he is wrong as well.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a never-been-married 40 year old woman and I've been in an affair with a 55 year old married man for 3 years. I'm happy. I love him, he loves me, sex is great, non-sex time is great. I don't want anything to change. Several of my closest women friends have told me they think I am wrong for being involved with a married guy. I say, "I'm not the one who took the vows. I'm not deceiving anyone." Should I re-think this?

Yes. You're wrong. End of story.

If you love each other why is he still married? Or maybe, just maybe, you're just his reliable side nooky. Hope that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.

I hope you're never on the other side when you're in your 50's and your future husband is banging someone 15 years younger than you. Or maybe that would serve you right.

Do you think that little of yourself that you will only play the role of "side piece" in a relationship?

If so, you need therapy.

Yes. You are complicit in hurting others. -from someone who had been there. Don't put this on him. You are also making a choice and have a responsibility.

I'm a never-been-married 40 year old woman and I've been in an affair with a 55 year old married man for 3 years. I'm happy. I love him, he loves me, sex is great, non-sex time is great. I don't want anything to change. Several of my closest women friends have told me they think I am wrong for being involved with a married guy. I say, "I'm not the one who took the vows. I'm not deceiving anyone." Should I re-think this?